a little sad about losing touch with great coworkers
December 8,2021 at 6:48PM UTC
A year ago, I left what had been a terrific job for a variety of reasons-- no opportunities for growth, low morale, and worst of all, a boss who was a classic bully who I needed to get away from ASAP. I ended up landing a much better position at a higher salary, more interesting duties and a real future.
While I was at my previous place of work, though, I developed friendships with several colleagues. We not only worked on high-impact projects we all had passion for (while we were allowed to work on great projects), but became close over the 3-4 years I worked there. Well, after I left, we stayed in touch for some time, met for lunch, and continued inviting each other over for dinners with our families.
Now, it feels like after several months, we've drifted. I've texted them here and there but no longer hear back much. Maybe the job really did keep us closer as jobs do. Still, I do feel the loss of these friendships. I feel like I should have expected this to happen. I know people often say that work friendships are situational. It's too bad. I know I did choose to move on (I was the only one with a terrible boss I had to get away from). I know one of my friends did feel abandoned-- they joked about it but I think this person did feel bad. Should I just let everyone go, am I assuming no one wants to be friends really anymore?
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