My husband has never been a romantic. We have been together 18 years, since we were both 18 years old and he has never been one. It has bothered me off and on through the years but for the most part I have accepted it. He never puts any thought into gifts or birthday plans for me, and I end up just telling him what I want and what to go do.
Rarely - like probably less than 10 times throughout our 18 years - have I just randomly received anything from him. Sometimes I just want a surprise flower delivery dammit!
Last year for Mother's Day, I just planned my own day. I ordered myself an ice cream cake with a message on it telling myself that I was great. I ordered my own gift. And I felt okay about it.
Today I asked my husband if I was taking care of my own Mother's Day again or if he was planning something. He got a blank look on his face, almost shocked. He hadn't even thought about it. I said I guess I'll just take care of it then. And I ordered myself flowers.
I just feel blah. It's not even that I have to do these things for myself, it's that he doesn't even think to do it. My love language doesn't match up with his unfortunately. I'm just feeling down right now.