Thinking about the importance of being totally present today.
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February 5,2021 at 4:54PM UTC
Being 100% fully engaged in all conversations and not allowing our devices to distract us. Pretty tough but critical.
I feel like I'm one of Pavlov's dogs and have been conditioned by my cell phone to look at it every time it pings.
How about you? Do you feel the same way?
I've incorporated a few tips I thought I'd share.
* When I'm off work, I put my phone in my purse, or out-of-sight.
* I set boundaries for myself. After 7:00 it goes away but since it's our only phone, I make sure to check it before I go to bed in case my mom or kids texted. :)
* I put it on silent when with family, in a meeting, or in a conversation.
*(this works well) Flip it upside down to avoid looking at it or I put it under my leg (except sometimes I forget it on the chair)
* Use the ‘out of office’ e-mail feature when in meetings rather than only for vacations or days off.
I'd love to hear tips and tricks from others. Please join the conversation.
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I'd love to hear about the worst job interview experience you've ever had!
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I would love to connect and learn!
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If you are interested in connecting please let me know below and I’ll msg you directly. I am going to stay anonymous for job security purposes.
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Even though I didn’t get the role, its a great reminder that we are all playing the game, and it’s important to pay attention to all the players, as well as what happens on the field.
I’m brushing off this let-down and moving on. And I know the right role is out there for me.
Sharing this because I know I’m among lovely company here.
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