I have been a federal employee for 20 years now, as a disabled veteran.
May 29,2021 at 2:44PM UTC
Unfortunately, in my current position of 11 years I have been subjected to workplace bullying by the entire department - no one wanted me to be hired and when I was, I became the butt of cruel jokes, ostracism, verbal, emotional and physical abuse and a formal permanent reprimand when I filed a complaint. Because I came from a very abusive family that hated me and kept me on the outside, was hated in the military and everywhere I have ever been, I just accepted this as my fate and stayed. The pay and benefits, and time off were too good for someone like me. I also began working on a masters in social work because school is my only refuge - I am not accepted at my university either, no one likes me, but learning is a private sanctuary. I am over 55 now, no one ever wanted me so I am single and no children, and no family or friends.
A classmate of mine who is the opposite of me, a sweetheart type of woman everyone loves and gravitates to, who wins awards and love just by existing, like a capybara, told me that she wanted to interview me for a social worker position at her for profit elderly rehab facility. I couldn't see why - she graduated in May, and I have a year left because I need one more internship. She said that they would take me because I am close to graduating, I would have the opportunity to gain skills and experience while finishing my degree, and after graduation move into higher positions because I have an undergrad in business. I interviewed and toured the facility - it doesn't smell like urine, which is a plus. The patients were clean and dressed, had standard rooms with personal items, and the personnel I was introduced to were all pleasant. The building is old and there is a lot of clutter piled in corners, it Is not pristine. They have a lot of medicaid patients. I get the overall impression that, while not perfect, they seem to be doing their job adequately. I was offered the job, but I have doubts and concerns because of who I am, and if I can do the job.
I will leave a job that hates me, and leave behind a high salary, good benefits and liberal time off for much lower wages, limited time off and expensive benefits. I am wondering what my classmate's and this business' ulterior motives are in bringing me in, am I going to be scammed? I also can't get back into federal government again because of the reprimand, even though it is over three years old and was the only stain on my career (every performance rating in my career was above successful, but I am abused daily). I would be switching careers because I have no actual social service experience (I wasn't going to use my degree once I get it - I just wanted to learn and understand for myself, without bogus therapy and not knowing the actual mechanics behind therapy, psychology and sociology, why my birth parents and the entire society have hated me since birth). And even though I am in school, I am not smart - I have very slow cognitive processing and take much longer to learn and do things than others. This has taken me three hours to write. I get good grades, but it takes me five times as long to write assignments compared to my classmates. This always got me in trouble in the military and some jobs.
I am open to any and all comments, ideas. Take it, don't, burn everything down and go be a hermit, stay where I am?
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