Recently one of the departments at my company held a week long kaizan (internal brainstorming meeting to find a solution to an identified problem).
May 17,2022 at 2:26PM UTC
I was not asked to participate in the kaizan which is understandable since it doesnt touch or concern my department. I was pleasantly surprised when the leader of the kaizan ordered me lunch. I expressed my gratitude especially since I'm typically too busy to eat. On Wednesday I was not offered lunch. No biggie. On Thursday the billing manager (she is a gossipy woman who often yells at her staff. However Ive had a cordial relationship with her) said she saw how booked my calendar was and asked if I could make room to meet with her for an urgent meeting. I moved my other meetings and told her I could accommodate her. She opened the meeting by saying "I heard from someone who heard from someone that you were upset that you didnt get lunch on Wednesday" I couldnt believe I reschuled meetings to listen to gossip! I told her that I was grateful to have received lunch and never expected it. Furthermore, I'm disappointed that (1) the subject matter of this meeting is not urgent and did not require that I reschedule other meetings and (2) she would repeat second hand gossip. I asked her why was she getting involved in such petty gossip. She also was not part of the kaizan so dont see why whoever told her this even came to her. I told her she should have nipped this in the bud. She started crying uncontrollably. I was unable to get her to stop. I felt bad hearing her sob. It was not my intent to bring her to tears. She hung up (it was aa TEAMS meeting). I called back 20 minutes later and she declined the call. I messaged her that I wanted to apologize for upsetting her. She messaged back that she wasnt in the right state of mind to talk. I asked her to let me know when she was ready to talk. This occurred last week and she hasnt reached out to me since. Would appreciate your thoughts.
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