This past week has supercharged anxiety and fear all over again as we watch the news and our emotions come spilling over.
The more anxious we get, the more we try to control situations and circumstances around us, even those that are completely outside of our control.
The more we try to control those situations the more anxious we get when we can't control them.
This is a highly charged time one that can send you spinning if you continue with this pattern.
Keep a worry log. Every time you feel anxious write down what is making you anxious. Then take a look and see if you have any control over the situation and see where you might have control.
Do this every single time you worry. At the end of the week, take a look back at your entries and see which actually happened. You'll be relieved to see how very few things we ruminate on actually come to fruitio
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Is there any link provided for today's event ? Can someone please help with this, thanks!
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I registered for the Sept 21st event.
I do not see any link to join the event. Could someone please help me with this.
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How important is it that others recognize your credentials?
Hi everyone! I was recently mistaken for an admin by one of my newer colleagues and it got me thinking about whether that is a problem for me career-wise or not. For context, I am an associate director at a pharma company, and while a PhD was required for me to get my (non-research) program manager position, many of the colleagues on my team come from more communications or event planning backgrounds. I think the confusion comes in because there has been a lot of changeover and medical leaves over the past year or so, so I have ended up pitching in to pick up slack that is decidedly more in the "getting stuff done" category and less in the providing expert insights category.
I am highly visible in the organization, including to the leadership team. I love what I do, and I have gotten a lot of positive feedback for my contributions. I'm just wondering if I am doing myself a disservice by doing tasks that provide value but could be done by someone with fewer credentials, or if I should be somehow working more of my educational backstory into my intros.
Has anyone out there had a positive or negative experience being a work horse?
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I preparing for job interviews and I'm mostly worried about the system design portion of it.
System Design questions can be tough for me sometimes. It's something I haven't had the chance to practice on and was wondering if anyone has advice on what topics they study. Or if anyone is willing to schedule a mock interview with me on SD that would be great too.
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The director I work under is burning me out emotionally.
Since she’s been director (hasn’t even been a year), 6 people have quit and left and now I see why. She can be sweet infront of people that she needs to act professional with but behind closed doors, she can be very condescending and manipulative. Not a lot of people in the department find it easy to get along with her. I will share my 3 experiences with her. 1) when one staff quit the day of his last day, there is an off-boarding procedure to follow. Removing them from all systems after submitting the termination form is one of them. When I removed him from our chat group the day after he quit and left, she pulled me to the side and asked why I did that. She said no one in the department knew he left yet and her boss was questioning her why that person left so abruptly. She said next time she’ll appreciate if I check in with her first. 2) she requested a meeting to be scheduled with all recipients in an email except one person. When I clicked on “reply all” to provide meeting dates and sent to everyone, she quickly messaged me and said “next time, do not include that person in the email. Makes sense?”. 3) I have been so swamped at work so I made a suggestion to take some workload off me and share it with a team of 6 who should be handling their own schedules instead of me. They’ve been trained to work on their own schedule yet not everyone has been doing it and I was still being asked to update their schedule. In a meeting when we were talking about schedules, I brought this up and she said “what does that have to do with what I just asked you?”. I had to turn off my audio so I can lay a heavy sigh. I have another manager that I report to but I’d hate to throw names around if I bring this up. Should I just keep working with a smile on my face or have a really difficult conversation with a director that no one likes?
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Advice: I don’t think my director likes me.
Or am I overthinking this. I’ve been in my position for almost a year. It’s an entry level position. When I first started, she was pleasant but as time progressed she seemed to turn a little cold. I have made minor mistakes in my work in the past, which I’ve taken accountability for and have since corrected by taking my time and triple checking my work. My direct supervisor commends me on my improvement however, I only hear from my director when I make a mistake, which has been once in a blue. I’ve noticed that she talks around me and doesn’t really acknowledge me when I talk to her. She’s not rude or anything, it just seems passive aggressive. I really love my job but I get instant anxiety when I see her name pop up in a chat or email. Any advice on how I should handle?