I started a new position right as the pandemic began (end of March 2020) and when I interviewed, I thought this job would be a great fit - I had great conversations with the interviewers (in my opinion), the salary was good and it was in a different city, which was something I was intent on. Don't get me wrong, I was and still am grateful that I was able to get a job when I did. However, 9 months later, I'm realizing the position and/or my boss may not be the best fit and I can't help but feel disappointed and a little hopeless.
At first, I thought my feelings of doubt might be a result of moving during the pandemic and being homesick, but it seems like the issues are greater. For example, I work in a biological tissue lab and my boss and I will take turns imaging samples, but he seems much more critical of my results than of his, even when the results are similar in quality, which often leaves me frustrated because it seems like he is holding me to unreasonable standards at times (he has 15 years of experience at this company; I have 9 months of experience at this company and I am working hard to try and meet his standards). I have tried to stand up for/explain myself, but he is dismissive during those conversations and doesn't offer guidance and I often leave those meetings feeling like I wish I hadn't even brought it up.
Additionally, when I interviewed and first started at the company, they prided themselves on being flexible and understanding. However, this flexibility and understanding doesn't seem to apply to me. I had an issue with a water heater leak and I needed to be home to meet the maintenance person (I don't have any roommates right now) and so I came into the office, completed some things that needed to be done in the morning, and then requested to work from home for a couple hours while I dealt with the maintenance person. While my boss allowed me to do this, I could tell he was not pleased with this request (the expression on his face was, even though there wasn't any reason that I needed to be present in the office to get my work done that day. Before I left, he asked "what would you do if you were busy and this happened?" with a cold tone, and I responded that I would just let the water heater leak until I could get get home to deal with it, but this question and the way that he said it just made me feel guilty for even asking to work from home, sad and undervalued.
This is the 1st time I asked for leniency and understanding like this and it is frustrating because at times, I am expected to be flexible and stay at the office until 6:30 or 7pm (I get in between 8am and 8:30am and sometimes don't even have time for a full lunch hour), which I am happy to do when there is work that needs to be completed, but I feel like I should get the same flexibility in return, especially when the work I need to do can be done remotely.
Am I being unreasonable?
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exercising, yoga/meditation, at least 7hrs of sleep, healthy meals? I've been trying and my methods seem a bit off with my schedule, not having enough time and feeling tired.
Just checking if any other professional has a different method I could try out.
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I have been on several interviews each reaching the third round stage for Executive Assistant roles. My feedback has been excellent, but then they pass on me. I'm not sure if I'm asking the right questions, or if this market is just really challenging. Has this been happening to anyone else, and do you have any recommendations? This has really been a blow to me during my search.
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Long story short
I got a job way below my pay range and experience because I was laid off. I’ve been working there for 7 months and I’m miserable. I hate the job, my tasks, everything is so manual. I can’t take it. I find myself procrastinating a lot, and not wanting to do the work. ?
I really think I’m depressed ?
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How does one deal with being pushed out at work?
I do not believe I will be fired because I have an open injury case, but it is very clear that I am not part of the popular crowd. I am now given only the most basic assignments and other people are running my department. I am not invited to any decision-making meetings. I do not have a supportive boss. She tries to be the queen bee for everything. I’ve gone to HR about other things, and they have told me that’s the way it is, it’s never gonna change—too bad, too sad.
I am trying to see this as a light-duty vacation but I am used to rolling up my sleeves and leading projects, so I feel like a loser because I am being replaced, rejected, and ignored.
I am not a fit and after a year of trying it is clear that I stick out like a giant sore thumb at this company.
I have tried to see the silver lining but I just feel embarrassed. This is not a company that I want to stay at forever so I gave up the idea of trying to fix it but I JUST CANNOT stop the hurt feelings and embarrassment.
Note: I am 100% cleared for work so there is no medical or legal reason to redistribute my work.
I am a single mom so I cannot quit. I am very nicely compensated, so finding comparable has been/will be hard.
I was always taught and thrived when I do more and try to be the best. It has always worked. I have never been rejected like this. They specifically want me to do less and to stop talking. I don’t know how to adjust to that.
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I just need a little support.
I am the only employee at a charity and I am really struggling with managing all my workload and navigating strong personalities on my board.
I have been working 50-60 hours a week for about 3 months now and I keep making mistakes, a lot of which are based on receiving conflicting instructions, some are just due to being new to the role and some are from my total and complete exhaustion. (I also have some family stuff going on). I expressed some concerns about receiving inconsistent instructions and that these instructions made it hard for me to understand what was expected of me in an executive board meeting. I thought would be an appropriate place to bring this up rather than a full board meeting. For context in previous job I have been the go-to person for diplomatic and difficult conversations and I usually handle challenging interpersonal dynamics really well.
Instead of being met with consideration for my concern, I was told I was oversharing and being too transparent. Basically shut down for expressing a concern, which I did bring up very professionally. I was feeling emotional but I did not act emotional. This was on zoom so I couldn't really "feel the room" so to speak, but no one said anything in my defense. One of the board members did text me later and told me they were glad I advocated for myself.
These are red flags, and I am trying to keep my chin up but frankly I am concerned about this becoming a trend. I also don't have anyone to talk with this about because I am the only employee and clearly the board is not a "safe" place for me to turn.
Thoughts? Virtual hugs? I could use one.