This coworker (I think she is in her early 20s) has started to finish her shift later (she works remotely) and has been coming to me to help her finish her work when it's past her shift time.
I finish at 5, so I still have my own work to complete, but her argument is that "nobody helps" her. She complained to her boss (who happens to be mine) and she contacted me over Skype saying that our boss was being rude and talking to her like she was 5.
She sent me a screenshot of what he wrote, and to be honest, the guy is just blunt and personally is very no-nonsense from what I could see. Her argument was that he was telling her to "shut up" but from what I could see he basically wrote "we are all very busy with people off so get on with your work".
She used to have daily 40 to 1 hour long conversations with me over Skype about the problems she has at work, but she has been struggling with personal issues outside of her job - her grandfather (he had problems before about a year ago), her dog and her boyfriend (who she no longer lives with from what she says)
She has fallen out with her friend who works on the same team recently and who started the same time as her (she told me her boss, his boss and her friend were all called into a meeting in the building) about conversations she wrote to this friend in group chats on Teams that was picked up, and says that during the meeting the managers didn't see anything her way and they want to get rid of her because they told her they were going to go through HR and the disciplinary process.
She also clashes regularly with two other women who are under my boss's boss, saying they bitch about her and she does not come out on any social events arranged with the department because she says she doesn't like anyone on the team.
She tells me she threatened our boss with going to HR about him and asked him for a contact for HR, but he refused to give her a contact. She told me she has been looking for external jobs because she says our company is a "shit hole".
I feel awful saying no to her requests for help, but she's been working with us for 3 years and management are getting pretty tired of her constantly saying she doesn't know what she's doing.
Do I escalate to the boss about this?
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