I am an over 50 graduate student and full time statistician at a VA where I am also a disabled vet patient. I have been having difficulty for a while with short term memory, cognitive and physical functions and started having trouble at work and classes - missing details in emails, work and assignments, getting dates wrongs for meetings, dropping things and being unable to find the words I need when speaking. I finally discovered that my symptoms were related to a medication the VA is using off label to address physical chronic pain (the VA discontinued opioid medications for most vets and replaced it with other things). I was thankful to discover that my symptoms are reported by other people taking this medication (gabapentin) and its not in my head. My dosage was reduced because I wanted to wean off it, but I couldn't due to the physical pain - it leaves me a choice between severe pain or brain fog. Regardless of this, I did severe damage to my graduate program and I fear I am done. I missed my first supervision hour, and missed my first practicum class because I got the dates wrong. With Covid, and moving to online and other things I got confused but I was the only one, and there are no excuses accepted. My agency supervisor is not answering my emails asking to discuss this, and I am waiting to hear from my professor if missing the first days means that I am done. I am trying to find out if my VA doctor can write a letter explaining about the difficulties I have had with gabapentin, but I am afraid that I am already a 'whiner', 'irresponsible' 'excuse seeker' etc. I don't know what to do because I am being ghosted and if don't know if I am going to be asked to leave the program. I blew it, I know it is my fault, and most of the MSW are probably going to answer me that yes, this is irresponsible and no, this is the end, but I just wanted to get it out of my head. I feel like the biggest idiot.
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Hi, I'm currently looking for a part-time or contract work
My name is Naomi from Kenya, I'm a data/business analyst with 1 year of experience and I am looking for opportunities. The power of data is changing the business world, and that's the reason I am here.
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Hi I’m in the Bay Area and in a position where I can move.
I was laid off last month as an executive assistant. Is the Bay overrun now?
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My heart is so conflicted as I've had a tempestuous relationship with a direct report since the beginning but tried to give him a chance.
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Colleague is not delivering and I'm going to have to request our supervisors get involved
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I'm not one to go to managers and complain about anyone, but this time, I think I have to. What is the best way to do this without getting the guy fired? I know if his boss tells him to get moving on the reports and finish them asap, he'll know I said something.
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Looking for ideas to create a positive work environment.
I was recently hired as the general manager of a large facility with a small staff (less than a dozen). Most of the staff have been there for years. Two are brother and sister. Two are husband and wife. Many are close friends. I'm an outsider hired into the organization in the top onsite management position. I've been warned by off-site management there will likely be pushback. I truly do want, need, and value their experience and knowledge! I don't have much of a budget to work with, so I cannot just offer them all raises. I'd like to create an environment that SHOWS them each they are valued. I will speak to them all with respect. I will verbalize their importance. But I'm hoping some of my FGB crew has some additional, possibly creative, ways that could help me join the team, as the leader, while making sure they all see that they are valued and respected.
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Heres my situation...I currently live in a sober house but am about to get kicked out due to a positive test for cocaine.
They are suggesting I go to a 28 day rehab. I don't want to get fired from my job. I dont qualify for FMLA since I haven't worked here a year yet. If I don't go to the rehab I will have to move to a shelter somewhere in the area I'm in to be able to get to work everyday. What should I do? How do I tell my boss I need 28- 30 days off for rehab? Or should I rough it out in a shelter for a bit until I can afford a place? I need some feedback. Im indecisive!