Well, it’s Part II of my previous post about a co-worker filing a workplace violence claim against me even though there is nothing I can think of I did to warrant this extreme measure.
For an update, I had an attorney look at my letter of directive and he said that was the worst letter he ever seen in his career and his advice to me was, write back to avoid insubordination by refusing to answer letter of directive and tell them letter was vague, poorly written and needed more specifics. I did that on July 23.
When I was originally given this letter, I was verbally told there were 3 topics I was supposed to write my conversation I had with this particular person and they were :Marketing Manager, Property manager and Donnie Z. I could only think of one that I got emotional with her about that I mentioned in my previous post when I explained my honesty and she accepted my apology later, but no violence took place. The other two definitely not and stupid for even thinking those conversations I had would ever be considered workplace violence either.
Well, I received a response to my letter requesting more details and received it yesterday. It still did not disclose what she said I did that caused her to file the workplace violence claim only that they were investigating a potential violation based on these conversations. So they still want me to write my conversation with that person on specific dates now not on or about dates from first letter. To top it off, they switched one of the verbally told topics and wrote a new one and it’s about my 25 year Service Pin discussion and removed Marketing Manager discussion and left other 2 listed above. This is insane and what is the topic going to be next if they can’t get it right the first time? They upset me to no end that day and I was wondering what I did with no information to go on and had to ask them questions. What if I would have complied originally to those 3 topics from the beginning? Would they have come and said, oh I’m sorry it wasn’t about that it’s on this topic. Dang I’m dealing with some kangaroos obviously investigating me. My antenna is up now for sure and want to laugh.
I am really not concerned I violated any policy, but it concerns me more as to why those topics they listed would to her? This is really getting on my last nerve and wondering if I should just write my comments and let them decide and see the craziness I see or should I stand my ground longer and not answer by my new deadline Aug 8.
I surely don’t want to write something she didn’t say or wasn’t the cause of her claim so they can twist against me to help them have questions to investigate me with .
Still confused as to why they need my conversation written in order to investigate me? Ask me a specific question and I’ll answer it.
If I do write something which I don’t want to, would it be simple facts like an outline? What would you do?
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What advice do you wish someone gave you?
Before I start I hope I don't sound ungrateful or silly.
However, I am at cross paths with my career and life.
I am qualified for my role i.e I have all my certifications in finance but feel stuck.
My first role a couple of years back was in a company going through its growth stage. I loved it and was learning but for some silly reason decided to leave.
I asked my own family and friends for advice because I wasn't experienced in corporate which was one of the reason for leaving.
Since then I've been job hopping.
Yes I've had salary increases , good changes in job titles.
However I truly don't understand why I'm stuck, my job titles change but I feel like I'm still a junior where I'm hardly learning anything new.
In my current role I would like to go on training courses to up skill but feel very greedy and uncomfortable in asking this.
Everyone I ask to shadow always say no, even though I offer to review their work and provide an input and sometimes share their workload.
I don't know how to free myself from this position.
Overall, I am five years into my position and should be mid senior now
What advice has stuck with you or would you share with someone who is fairly new to the corporate world.
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When you're so important that you are late for everything!
This is my new temporary boss. She may be a nice person but she can't be on time for anything that involves her team or direct reports. She manages to above.
Yes, I don't like her. I hope she moves on and that I get a better permanent boss.
I feel like I want to be sarcastic when she's late for our meeting today that she already pushed back and turned into a virtual meeting. How do you survive a mediocre boss?
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Hi Everyone. Looking for some advice.
I've been with a company that I really like for five years. I am a mid level employee and have had 3 managers in the past 5 years. Each has their unique way of managing and i have have adapted accordingly. My problem is with my current manager. He is very particular as to how he wants work accomplished even though we may have the same outcome. He speaks over me in meetings, "translates" to the team what I really mean and does not have my back when I'm working with his direct reports. I am beyond fed up. I spoke to him about this and there have been no changes.
I have posted for other positions internally and he refuses to "release" me from his department. I've gone to HR and they are siding with him. I am fed up. I like the company but I can't continue to work under such scrutiny and control and lack of communication.
Leaving this company scares me because of the current state of the economy. But I can't continue to work in misery.
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Seriously?
Yah, it's an "employer's" market, but seeing so many listings for roles that are offering literally half or 25% of what the pay should be is making me sick. You want 5-10 years experience for x? The pendulum always swings back. Employers may want to consider that. Don't hire until you can afford to or prepare for mass resignations when things turnaround--because they always do. Thank you for letting me rant.
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Would you consider a move from a corporate job for a job at a much smaller company + pay cut or just wait for another opportunity?
My current job: I'm the marketing lead for a division within a large, global media company. In addition to pay being great, benefits are as well, including 401k matching. Also, while I have a hybrid schedule and do need to go into the office a few times a week, it's flexible enough where it's never an issue for me to work from home an extra day, go in late, leave early, etc. I also have a lot of colleagues I like.
Why I'm looking elsewhere: I've been in this role for 3 years and I feel like I've gotten everything out of it I can. While my title is "only" at the manager level, I'm the most senior marketer for the line of business I work on, so there's no where for me to grow in this role. I've felt increasingly bored, burnt out, and I don't feel appreciated. I've been looking both internally within other parts of my current company and external.
Potential external role: Fully remote, better title, and opportunities for lots of face time with media leaders I may not meet otherwise (role involves traveling about once a month for events), but for a much smaller media company; benefits won't be comparable and the hiring manager has said the highest they can likely go with salary would be a $10k ish cut.
The role would heavily involve public speaking, relationship-building, and storytelling (three areas I love and would like to lean into even more), but I'm hesitant to lose the type of benefits I have now and I do feel like I have a great work/life balance now (I know from previous experience at a small company, and from how the hiring manager spoke of the job, that this type of job really becomes three jobs in one).
Thoughts? Also, if you've been in a similar situation, i'd love to hear what you decided to do and if you were ultimately happy with that choice. Thank you!
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