A coworker of mine was let go which is a very rare thing, since I work for government with a strong union. The office environment is a snake pit, and when I first started almost 10 years ago, I suffered a lot of bites. It almost broke me, but I got through it - T.G. for Fairygodboss advice during that time to keep a shred of my self esteem! I am a program manager now and spend little time in the office gen pop - I am usually out in the community, which dilutes the toxic office environment to a benign level. About 5 years ago a woman started in our department and I took her under my wing a bit, since I know what it can be like to be new and ready to please... I befriended her on a professional level, helped her with IT issues, connections, etc. She started out great, gained respect beyond the petty office pool, and did a wonderful job. Fast forward 5 years (2 of that COVID complications). Since our management is so weak, and bad behavior rarely gets curbed, she developed the habit of talking on the phone CONSTANTLY. I mean everywhere. Not just to clientele, but family and friends for hours at a time. At her desk, in the hall, in the ladies, in the elevator - even in our phone center! As a result, she was greeted with contempt and was even more disliked. I told her once, "people really notice how much you are on the phone" and she just answered me with a "Well my job requires me to be on the phone". I distanced myself. Well, management reorganized our department and she is out. I felt bad of course but I can also see why it worked out that way.
I was told by another coworker that on her last day, she told him that, "everyone can see right through me, I'm not fooling anyone because when I talk to one person about someone else, they know I'll talk to that person about them."
I barely talk to anyone, that's my survival story. I feel like I was this only person's friend, and this is how I am treated? I'd like to call her up and tell her why she was ultimately let go, although obvious it wasn't official. Do I bother?
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I got a job way below my pay range and experience because I was laid off. I’ve been working there for 7 months and I’m miserable. I hate the job, my tasks, everything is so manual. I can’t take it. I find myself procrastinating a lot, and not wanting to do the work. ?
I really think I’m depressed ?
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How does one deal with being pushed out at work?
I do not believe I will be fired because I have an open injury case, but it is very clear that I am not part of the popular crowd. I am now given only the most basic assignments and other people are running my department. I am not invited to any decision-making meetings. I do not have a supportive boss. She tries to be the queen bee for everything. I’ve gone to HR about other things, and they have told me that’s the way it is, it’s never gonna change—too bad, too sad.
I am trying to see this as a light-duty vacation but I am used to rolling up my sleeves and leading projects, so I feel like a loser because I am being replaced, rejected, and ignored.
I am not a fit and after a year of trying it is clear that I stick out like a giant sore thumb at this company.
I have tried to see the silver lining but I just feel embarrassed. This is not a company that I want to stay at forever so I gave up the idea of trying to fix it but I JUST CANNOT stop the hurt feelings and embarrassment.
Note: I am 100% cleared for work so there is no medical or legal reason to redistribute my work.
I am a single mom so I cannot quit. I am very nicely compensated, so finding comparable has been/will be hard.
I was always taught and thrived when I do more and try to be the best. It has always worked. I have never been rejected like this. They specifically want me to do less and to stop talking. I don’t know how to adjust to that.
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I just need a little support.
I am the only employee at a charity and I am really struggling with managing all my workload and navigating strong personalities on my board.
I have been working 50-60 hours a week for about 3 months now and I keep making mistakes, a lot of which are based on receiving conflicting instructions, some are just due to being new to the role and some are from my total and complete exhaustion. (I also have some family stuff going on). I expressed some concerns about receiving inconsistent instructions and that these instructions made it hard for me to understand what was expected of me in an executive board meeting. I thought would be an appropriate place to bring this up rather than a full board meeting. For context in previous job I have been the go-to person for diplomatic and difficult conversations and I usually handle challenging interpersonal dynamics really well.
Instead of being met with consideration for my concern, I was told I was oversharing and being too transparent. Basically shut down for expressing a concern, which I did bring up very professionally. I was feeling emotional but I did not act emotional. This was on zoom so I couldn't really "feel the room" so to speak, but no one said anything in my defense. One of the board members did text me later and told me they were glad I advocated for myself.
These are red flags, and I am trying to keep my chin up but frankly I am concerned about this becoming a trend. I also don't have anyone to talk with this about because I am the only employee and clearly the board is not a "safe" place for me to turn.
Thoughts? Virtual hugs? I could use one.
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Has anyone experienced keeping the same job, but switching departments within the same company?
I have been in my department for a while now and it is just not the right fit. I have tried to be nice, helpful, communicative, but some individuals are not receptive to this, while others are outright unkind. Things are consistently inefficient and confusing. Most in this department can't seem to get along and are on an endless crusade against my manager and each other. I am caught in the middle of a spider web, fielding questions and frustrations that aren't my job to deal with. "In-fighting" is consistently brought up. Higher levels of management have had to step in to help us sort everything continuously, but then when things seem to settle down an employee comes up with something new to complain about and when they complain it isn't small--it is always a giant time and energy-sucking fiasco. Drama, toxicity.
Another department, however, has kind, communicative individuals in it. My coworker who has my position over there loves it. She is retiring in the next couple of years, and I am highly considering applying for her position.
What I am very worried about navigating is the negative push-back. Since it won't be a promotion, it will be clear that I applied solely because I don't "like" my department. I am terrified of this destroying my reputation in the company. Has anyone done something like this before and if so, did your reputation suffer? I care about this because I will continue to need to periodically work across multiple departments. I will see these same people again in some capacity, especially my old manager. I've worked here for many many years and like the company overall. I would hate to have to leave the company itself.
Any thoughts are appreciated, thank you :)
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I just finished an interview.
I am in the field of health information management. The interview went well but when I asked the director of dept about the compensation and she said she doesn’t know how much the position is budgeted or the exact hourly pay. I was previously salaried at a large healthcare facility before being laid off. The position I interviewed for was an entry level position whereas I have about 5 years of experience. The job title would be medical record specialist. I was an analyst in the past.
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Hello lovely ladies,
I desperately need some advice and guidelines here.
I have been out of job for 10 months, I had some interviews and 2 of them gave me offer while one gave me the offer last week which I have signed and should resume tomorrow 2/21/24 then I got the offer from the second one some minutes ago to resume by 4th of March.
I actually like the second one better, the pay is a little higher(10k/yr more), the commute is 20 mins from my home unlike the first that I have to commute 45mins everyday(onsite), the second is also hybrid so I will only commute 3 days in a week.
The issue now is, how do I inform the first I will not be resuming anymore giving I was suppose to start tomorrow or do I go in first and decline the offer?