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I have been unhappy at my job for a while. The reasons are varied and I won't go into them here. I have been looking for another job for over 6 months. My job is pretty rare and no one can afford the pay level I would need to move on. I have 10 years of experience in a job that is just starting to become a true profession. To put it simply no one can afford me and my level of experience. I don't get paid poorly at all but I cannot afford to take a pay cut. So one of my coworkers who I used to manage our team with offered me a chance to move to her client facing side of the team. While I was skeptical I accepted. I figured I was bored doing what I was doing and having new responsibilities and things to learn would be a good thing. I have been with the team for a month or so and with in the last two weeks "they" the leaders, have decided that rather than hire project managers to replace the ones we have lost that we, on the client facing side could just do the job. I have a certain set of skills and being a project manager is not among them. Not to mention I have no desire to acquire those skills. I was moved to the team to train clients and be a SME and do demo's of our products. I did not agree to be a PM because my company will not hire truly qualified professionals. SO I shared my concerns with my manager, perhaps more bluntly than I should have, but we have had a good relationship till now. Since becoming my manager she speaks to me like a child and I always feel like she is disappointed in me. I am shadowing the other members of the team to learn the new role and I have very little to do so I am continuing to work on my old tasks until I have more to do or learn more. I told her today that she needed to give me things to do and she told me I should be stepping up and taking things from my team members who are overwhelmed...for a job I don't know and don't yet understand. I have told them both I am willing to help but only one of them has given me a thing. Then she tells me to today that "there may be a trust issue with me." That makes no sense. I asked her to elaborate and she could not. I haven't been with that team enough for there to be trust issues. When I continued to ask for guidence she just told me I should be doing more. But in truth I don't know what to do or what she expects. I cannot go take work from the other team members. I have done what they have asked, attended the endless meetings and have been told that for now I am just to shadow them. So that is what I am doing. She told me today, because I have said I am willing to go back to my old team if I am not what she is looking for. Today she told me I need to make a choice. I reiterated that I do not want to be a PM and she told me I have no choice if I stay on her side of the team. Also I was told there will be no raises for increased work and stress...so there is that. It feels like she is telling me that all of it is going to suck and there is nothing good about it. I will be in a roll I am not qualified for. I will likely disappoint becasue she seems to have a grand problem telling me what she expects. She is always upset and I take stuff like that personally weather it is me or not. The other two memebers on the team are upset too but apparently are willing to just give it the old college try. I am not so plyable. So am I crazy? Should I shut the hell up and do my best though I may fail? I wouldn't even care about that but the whole team is tense and angry and they are acting pissy toward me because I am not meeting some imaginary role that they haven't told me about. I don't want to guess and be wrong and piss more people off. I am wrong to ask them to tell me how they want me to help? I actually got an eye roll when I asked that today. Frankly I see no redeeming quality to staying in this new role. I mean work is work, but flat out telling me this is going to suck and there will be nothing good about it is a shitty selling point. Maybe I am just a bitter old woman...who knows. I don't know what to do . Part of me wants to go back to the other side of the team where I was comfortable, but part of me is excited but learning something new. But I cannot take the negativity that I am already getting off my new manager. Other employees who have been under her warned me how bad she is. I thought it would be different with me because we had a good working relationship as co managers. I cannot believe how wrong I was.
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