Questions that I do not and should not have to answer
September 3,2020 at 4:39AM UTC
I am an American Indian woman who is multilingual. I have recently been struggling with my anger that I have for a couple of questions that people ask in a business setting. Weather it is a client, potential employer or a peer. The question that gets asked is why do I speak English so well? (Without am accent) and the other is Where are you “really” from?
I usually answer the first question with: I was born here and I hope I speak my native tongue eloquently.
The answer to the second question usually turns into a volleying back and forth about what the other person wants to know about me.
How do I stand firm in a business setting about being respected when the ecosystem of a business does not allow for that to happen? You have to just take the comments and be polite as possible and put a smile on your face.
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