Getting comfortable with rejection is like exercising.
Breakthrough Executive Coach
April 24,2023 at 3PM UTC
In the beginning, everything hurts, right? I can do weights and do 10 pounds, and little by little my body gets used to 10 pounds. Then I move up to 20 pounds, and then little by little I get used to it.
Same thing with being rejected or getting a NO for an answer. You start and at the beginning, it hurts. I mean, at the beginning you feel like “OMG, It's the end of the world, they rejected me”. But then, gradually you start getting used to it, and then you ask more, and then they start saying yes… because practice makes you better at asking for what you want.
Then, all of a sudden… I mean, things are changing, and you stop feeling fear about being rejected, and you feel more comfortable.
It's a matter of practice and getting your muscles used to it in a way your mind is used to it, to rejection and understanding that there is nothing wrong with it.
So… Get ready with the rejection routine! What do you think about it?
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"I did a TON of work leading an ERG!
But I have no idea how to put it on my resume, or if it even belongs there..."
Oooo, my friend! Your ERG leadership role absolutely, 100%, should be on your resume if you are seeking out a new leadership/management role.
Now that THAT is out of the way, let's talk about HOW to include that role on your resume.
1️⃣ List it out as its own role.
Just because your ERG leadership position wasn't your Full-Time job, does not mean it hasn't earned its own place on your resume!
You can include your ERG leadership role as a separate role with overlapping timeframes (totally fine) so that you can give it the real estate it has earned for accomplishment-driven bullet points.
2️⃣ Include your ERG role within a leadership subhead of your current role/company.
If you've been in a role for a long time OR if you are looking to switch into a new function or industry, I like to break up bullet points into a few subheads.
Think about the key skills and experiences you are utilizing in your current role that are RELEVANT to your next target role. If leadership or project/program management are on your list, you can include your ERG leadership role and key accomplishments under one of those subheads.
3️⃣ Focus on quantifiable accomplishments.
Metrics, please! People, money, scale, scope. Numbers help tell your story.
Start here: Did you grow your ERG membership? Did you secure funding to host events or programs? Did your ERG touch an increasing number of folks within your businesses through your activities? That's gold!
4️⃣ Double down on those accomplishments.
If you're getting stuck on your accomplishments as an ERG leader, list out the responsibilities of the role. But don't stop there!
Take that list of responsibilities and then ask yourself - because I did THIS responsibility well, what was the positive outcome?
OR if I didn't do this responsibility well, what would have been the negative result?
Either question can help you turn responsibilities into accomplishments.
5️⃣ Include ERG Leadership as an area of expertise.
I love a good Skills or Areas of Expertise section on a resume, and I especially love a really TARGETED Skills/Areas of Expertise section.
ERG Leadership itself can be listed as an area of expertise but you can also break this down further. What skills/experiences did you build in this ERG role that would be highly valuable to your target companies?
To make sure you're including the right stuff here, review job postings, LinkedIn company profiles, and company websites.
✍ Ready to get writing? ✍
Off you go!
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