Doing things on my own

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So, I have a really hard time with waiting for others to help me or trusting when I’m in Despair someone will come to my aide so I just get things done on my own I’ve always been this way. Well, I have a boyfriend who is cheap and our 20 year old fridge just went out and he thinks it’s going to come back alive. He rather call a million people and ask do they have a fridge than to go get one. We have kids and have been putting food in our wine cooler. I’m on edge! I’m not used to calling around and waiting for people to help. Of course we both don’t have the funds to dish out $700-1000 on a new fridge so I said how about financing he says why not then when I show him this is what we are getting this has to be done this week! He says: Wow! 35 a week for a new fridge adds up. I’m completely annoyed at the fact it’s been a month and we don’t have a new fridge. Do I get the darn fridge or what? I mean eating out is getting expensive. I need suggestions I've never been without a major appliance.

Anonymous · Answer

Get the fridge. And get a new significant other. You didn't mention how many kids you have, but your current boyfriend is one of them. If things are like this NOW they will get worse later.

Anonymous · Answer

Purchase a used fridge from Facebook marketplace or other local source, save to buy a new one.

Anonymous · Answer

There's a difference between not buying frivolous things and not buying necessary things because you're cheap. A cheap man is a red flag because he'll always have an excuse not to spend money! My husband agrees :-)

I know for a fact that you can get zero percent financing at Sears so go get that fridge!

Anonymous · Answer

Eating out is going to cost you more in the long run. Try going to an outlet or scratch & dent store - sometimes they offer financing. Home Depot and Lowes all have clearance items on the floor over the weekends and you can finance it if you have to. Also, you can find good deals at refurbished appliance shops.

BansheeBailey · Answer

Stingy men are not the best men, imho. If you have these kind of money issues with him now, it’s  not going to get better down the road. There is frugal, and then there is expecting other people to provide the things he should be providing for his own household. A fridge is a necessity. It is not a frivolous expense.

Enough already. Tell him you need a refrigerator. Do some research and measure your space, then go get a fridge. You can get financing for major appliances; lots of people do it that way.  
Good luck, however you decide to handle it.

Aleta Williams Mattingly · Answer

Dump him!

Anonymous · Answer

Give him one more week - but tell him that at the end of the week if he can't find anyone to help you guys then you're buying one yourselves. A month without a fridge is definitely a long time and like you said, eating out is probably costing you more money than it's saving you waiting for someone to help.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh my! I did get a good laugh off of this. I totally get what you are saying he is a cheapo I’m finding this out more and more. He is able to save because he won’t buy things.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you suggest buying or financing? I have a 13 year old that eats every hour if he could and a baby on the way my boyfriend says the fridges usually starts working in the winter I’m like dude I can’t put breast milk in a fridge that has unregulated tempers throughout the day it’s not safe. I’m leaning more toward buying but that would be a few more weeks of saving. And the old fridge is starting to have a rancid smell coming from the back. If I wasn’t pregnant I would throw the fridge off the balcony I’ve had it!

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