how to meet people when you move to a new place

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I recently moved half way across the country and I am trying to make friends in my new city. I'm in my early 30s, so I feel like most people my age have set groups of friends/networks and aren't regularly trying to meet new people. I do have some friendly coworkers, but my company is small so it's only a few people. Does anyone have recommendations for how to make some new connections in a somewhat organic way?

Elizabeth Marie · Answer

That's so exciting, I've actually done this before. The most successful ways I met people was by joining a fun, non-competitive kickball team and joining a yoga studio that hosted outside activities to meet and connect.

Karen Eisengruber · Answer

I've also done this - twice! Once in my early twenties (which was surprisingly harder, I think) and again in my late twenties. I will say, I do think a lot of people are in a similar boat .

I've joined non-competitive athletic teams (a lot of the teams in my city have social events following the games), church groups, gone to Meet Ups, and through volunteering as well. Most of my best friends I've met through introductions from acquaintances.  The best advice given to me was never say no to an invitation to a social event for the first few months in a new city - I've met so many people going to events/activities that I otherwise would have passed on.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm currently going though the same thing! I've been going to different classes, using my current contacts and volunteering to try and meet new folks. I find myself going on a lot of platonic dates! I've met a few cool people, but as Georgene said, it can be hit-or-miss. Good luck!

Georgene Huang · Answer

Hi Kate, I have done this too -- I moved from NYC to London in my early 30's. I did a variety of things to expand my social contacts. First, I asked my friends for introductions and met some people that way who then put me in touch with their friends but as with any new relationship, this can be a hit-or-miss strategy. So really, my advice would be that it takes time and repeatedly putting yourself out there. I have heard that volunteering and joining things like book clubs can help. There may even be meet-ups that you may want to attend. Personally, I attended some networking (work-related) events for my industry that helped me build my network. One thing to remember is that true friendships take time and investment and there are many things you cannot control so don't put too much pressure or unrealistic expectations on yourself. Good luck!

Ladyboss710913 · Answer

I'm not into athletics. On weekends I always have my kids. I guess I'm screwed. So lonely in this place all I have is my fiance and he's been so damn boring lately.

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