Confused
I am in my early 30's and at a job that means absolutely nothing to me. It's not in my major, I sit around all day and feel like I'm not contributing anything to society. It was a job I took due to circumstances not allowing me to stay at my old job. I am now engaged to a wonderful man. Last night at dinner the topic of me being restless at this place came up. I told him I would love to look back in the downtown area for something better paying. His response was "well, when we have kids (which we both know we would like and are in 100% agreement) wouldn't you stay home with them? If you don't your entire check would literally go to child care." I was thrown off by a couple of things here...
1st: The assumption I would be a SAHM - which I'm okay with, but I guess I wasn't okay with him automatically assuming it?
2nd: Feeling inadequate b/c I can't make the money he is making to contribute financially to our future family
3rd: Kind of feels like he wants me to stay in the dead-end job until I get pregnant, doesn't it? We are getting married next summer and plan to start a family shortly after.
Do I stay where I'm at and make the best of it?
Do I go after a better paying job? I don't want to feel like a free loader - Note: He has NEVER made me feel that way, I think it's more in my head.
Thoughts?
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