There is no lesson to be learned from a toxic boss.
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March 8,2020 at 11:11PM UTC (Edited)
This report https://fairygodboss.com/articles/5-painful-lessons-i-learned-from-having-a-toxic-boss
cites behaviors that are all illegal. There is only one response: get out and make at least an anonymous report to the law. I am mature and successful and I rescued others and myself from some serious job abuse "in the day".
I am passing on what I must , what I was told, at that time, by a US Congressman:
"Failure to report can make you an accessory" And "Freedom from even the fear of reprisal" is YOUR constitutional right, should that idea enter your fear place in a bad job.
There is no "Victim-Blaming" here. In fact, This entire post is a rescue for victimized and a warning that a toxic boss and any allies in the office often blame the victim, for the usual evil reasons.
Worse: if you stay in a toxic job, past a certain point, the legal tenet "Silence is assent" gets into it.
If an issue arises, the law MIGHT say that the Victim stayed; did not leave or complain, and so must have felt that the evil was okay and is therefore also guilty.
Finally, If you stay in the toxic scenario until you are wreckage, you may look and act like it when you go to seek new work. The interviewers at the new job may feel you would not be a busy and happy addition to their team.
Be happy and make a shining path of your career journey! Bad job? Get out fast.
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Has anyone left their full time toxic job for a contract role ?
I work with a very condescending, micromanaging manager and honestly it makes me sick to my stomach every time she puts a 1:1 on my calendar. I currently have a part time contract role that is way better environment wise, but no benefits. They offered me more hours and I am considering it.
Additional info: Contract role is well paying and is a level up from my current role. So pays more, better environment.
what would you do in my shoes ?
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In today's post on my blog "Reimagine," we look at what visualization and mindfulness meditation are in the context of a dream-job pursuit and how separately and together they can transform your experience.
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My manager does not listen.
she will jump in and take the conversation in the wrong direction and provide wrong information.
I tried telling her the client had issues with something, she cut me off and said the contract is under review that’s why the issues. It sounded wrong so I clarified but she further explained the contract being in review. I know my information was clear therefore I believed her. During a meeting with my client I passed along the info and they had no idea there was contract issues and after they emailed my boss and I.
my boss responded that she was not aware of any contact issues. Now the client is confused why I told them there were issues and even questioning my abilities.
She has done stuff like this before, today in a different client meeting she made me look incompetent.
how do I address this with my boss or do I just ignore her when she does it? my worry is sounding childish and being a complainer but I also don’t care to look bad to clients.
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Approaching month 7 of being laid off.
I recently got my job rejection letter after 3 rounds of a (seemingly) successful interview process; which took a total of 2 months, BTW. I am of course left feeling DEFEATED, however. I am wondering if there should have been something within the months-long process I could have done or inquired about etc.? Like a clue to have let me know hey, they aren't as serious about hiring you as it appears. Just in an effort to be better prepared for next time, that was a huge waste of time I actually missed out on the Job Fair
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Lots of people sell their coaching services on this platform.
I think this episode is worth listening to before engaging a Coach.
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May I just vent for a minute? And feel free to commiserate. Over the last 2+ years (actually, probably since mid 2020) I have had countless interviews. Interviews in all shapes and sizes (I'm in HR, by the way, for what it's worth, but I'm speaking as a candidate). I have been in interviews that were the most pleasant experience ever, some where I felt like it was an inquisition (one particular instance, I went through 3 rounds over several months, wasn't really into that job but needed a job, totally thought I bombed it and then when I called to withdraw when I landed my current job, they were upset). Brady Bunch-style Teams interviews. In person with facemasks (which led to one of the worst headaches I ever had). All kinds of different scenarios. And I tolerate them, I do. I applied for a reason, I will follow through and take each rejection in stride and withdraw for what is not a good fit for me. But out of all the different interview styles I've experienced, the one I absolutely hate, is the one-sided recorded video. Hate. Double hate Looooathe that style. I just did one last week (second time in my career I have had to) and I almost withdrew my application once I realized that was the next step. Anyone else find those particularly torturous?