Feeling hopeless at 33.
Good Morning Everyone,
Disclaimer: This is ALL over the place and will be lengthy.
I dont' even know where to start with this post, but feel so very lost. I went to school for Hospitality Administration and received my bachelor's degree in it. This past March would have been 4 years as an engineering administrative assistant at a hotel. A job I KNEW I was good at and that I enjoyed but had no advancement opportunities, so to say I was getting restless would be accurate.
Then THIS happened:
I ended up having to leave the department because my boyfriend wouldn't have been considered for a management position if I was still in it. It was a situation I TRIED to put a positive spin on many, many times. "This will help both of us" or "I'll still be in the same hotel, just in a different department." I ended up taking a job in Catering with high hopes.
Guess what?! I crashed and burned. The staff I worked with was amazing, but the job itself wasn't. It ALWAYS felt like there was a stigma that "she's here b/c of her boyfriend" attached too, which I wasn't a fan of. The hours, dealing with brides and MOB demands, detailing events, it is just NOT what I enjoy doing. I lasted about a month and they were not happy. I commend anyone in the sales and catering departments, they are intense.
I ended up taking an office admin job closer to home in March. It is not working out and I fear they may dissolve this position any day. I literally get everything they ask for done within the first hour of being here. There is no training and HR has already made a comment about "we don't want to bump you down to part time" so I can't even talk about it. I have student loans and doctor bills to pay so why would I jeopardize that?
This has created a lot of animosity in my relationship. I'm miserable, my boyfriend doesn't understand and I don't want to keep blaming him in roundabout ways for my current situation. He's doing great in his new position and I'm so proud of him. It's just really hard for me to hear about the department I miss. I guess I just wanted to leave on my own terms, not in the manner that it happened.
I have a degree and I just feel like I wish I would have gone to school for something more meaningful. Something more "in demand."
I don't even know what I like other than health and wellness (which has an incredibly saturated market right now) and animals (devastating job options in this field). I thought about getting NASM certified and specializing in functional aging, but the response I get is less than stellar from family and friends. "How are going to save up for a wedding/baby with that job?"
Every other thing in my life is going alright - family is okay, my boyfriend wants to get engaged/married/start a family as soon as possible (scary, but sweet) but I am tired of feeling less than and like a failure career-wise.
Any suggestions?
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