Feeling hopeless at 33.
Good Morning Everyone,
Disclaimer: This is ALL over the place and will be lengthy.
I dont' even know where to start with this post, but feel so very lost. I went to school for Hospitality Administration and received my bachelor's degree in it. This past March would have been 4 years as an engineering administrative assistant at a hotel. A job I KNEW I was good at and that I enjoyed but had no advancement opportunities, so to say I was getting restless would be accurate.
Then THIS happened:
I ended up having to leave the department because my boyfriend wouldn't have been considered for a management position if I was still in it. It was a situation I TRIED to put a positive spin on many, many times. "This will help both of us" or "I'll still be in the same hotel, just in a different department." I ended up taking a job in Catering with high hopes.
Guess what?! I crashed and burned. The staff I worked with was amazing, but the job itself wasn't. It ALWAYS felt like there was a stigma that "she's here b/c of her boyfriend" attached too, which I wasn't a fan of. The hours, dealing with brides and MOB demands, detailing events, it is just NOT what I enjoy doing. I lasted about a month and they were not happy. I commend anyone in the sales and catering departments, they are intense.
I ended up taking an office admin job closer to home in March. It is not working out and I fear they may dissolve this position any day. I literally get everything they ask for done within the first hour of being here. There is no training and HR has already made a comment about "we don't want to bump you down to part time" so I can't even talk about it. I have student loans and doctor bills to pay so why would I jeopardize that?
This has created a lot of animosity in my relationship. I'm miserable, my boyfriend doesn't understand and I don't want to keep blaming him in roundabout ways for my current situation. He's doing great in his new position and I'm so proud of him. It's just really hard for me to hear about the department I miss. I guess I just wanted to leave on my own terms, not in the manner that it happened.
I have a degree and I just feel like I wish I would have gone to school for something more meaningful. Something more "in demand."
I don't even know what I like other than health and wellness (which has an incredibly saturated market right now) and animals (devastating job options in this field). I thought about getting NASM certified and specializing in functional aging, but the response I get is less than stellar from family and friends. "How are going to save up for a wedding/baby with that job?"
Every other thing in my life is going alright - family is okay, my boyfriend wants to get engaged/married/start a family as soon as possible (scary, but sweet) but I am tired of feeling less than and like a failure career-wise.
Any suggestions?
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Not happy with this transfer offer
My boss pulled me into a conference room yesterday to say that she has a transfer opportunity available to another office in the region (not far from home, about the same driving distance). I've been with the company for five years and have received great reviews and raises and a nice bonus. I thought she was going to suggest another position that recently opened up that sounds really exciting, but instead, she said a role was vacated at this other office, and she thinks I'd be a "great fit."
Well, the role really isn't anything I'd be interested in at my level. I see it more as a "foot in the door" job for someone with half my experience who needs to start somewhere. If anything, I see it as a dead end job. I'd take all of the great experience I've gained and toss out out the window if I took this job. I'm an SME in my area, and it would be bizarre for me to give up the job for something like this.
I said I'd think about it, but within five minutes of hanging up the phone, I had a sick feeling. I did ask her about the other role I'd want, and she gave me a wishy-washy answer about the role being incorporated into another position (maybe).
No one has ever complained about my work (not that I know of). I've been very happy there overall, but just a little antsy to take on something more challenging after five years. FWIW, she has moved people into really nice roles, but in my case, the move would look embarrassing, as if I were being punished and banished to a weird job that derails one's career (and I've seen them do that to other people on purpose). So, I'm going to tell her next week thank you, but I'm not interested. What if she tries to push it or demands a good reason why I'm turning it down other than I'd rather wait for something else? Would you say aloud that it doesn't look like such a great career move for someone with my experience, and I know there are better opportunities? I'd rather quit and go elsewhere than take this job. I ran this by a friend and he said it sounds like the first job they'd cut if they have layoffs.
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Currently interviewing but i have a dental procedure coming up that will put me out for a week , meaning I will be out for 1 week, just 2-3 weeks right after starting the job. ...
I would like to prepare what I will say as im approaching last interview and may land the job. The issue is I would rather start right away because i need income urgently to pay bills
a- tell them its best for me to start after my procedure - 3 weeks from now ( which will but me in a predicament as i need immediate income) and they might be annoyed they have to wait 3 weeks
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b-tell them i can start 1 or 2 weeks before my procedure and but that in 3 weeks I may need an entire week off .
advice ?
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