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Can't get a word in.
My friend is so annoying to the point that I don't want to engage in a conversation with her because she is so negative and won't take responsibility for anything,she has to justify everything and she's the biggest hypocrite I know and I can't talk to her cause she over talks me and thinks she has to be right.whsy do I do I can't take it anymore
Anonymous
02/16/20 at 4:16PM UTC
I’m like this. I have to be careful that I’m not to pushy and it’s hard. To me I feel like I’m trying to pick up on invisible ques.
People like us don’t get it. If we’re pushy, we expect everyone to speak up. I would tell her how I felt, and I would do it three times.
1. Time when it happens again.
2. Over text if it happens after that.
3. When she calls you and asks why you’re ignoring her for days after she does it the third time.
And after that I’d move on from the friendship until she has time to get over whatever storm it is that’s making her act like that. She’s so consumed with her self that she doesn’t get it.
She doesn’t see what she’s doing and she doesn’t know how to stop because her depression has taken over but you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help.
Escape1965Retired. No interest in money but nice to have.
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02/16/20 at 8:35PM UTC
Thank you for your honesty about being this type of person. I'm there with you.
My own daughter said "you have a very strong personality." I guess I had no idea I was running rough shod over people.
Please set the person down and have an honest conversation. She may not be aware of the harm that has been done. If she accepts your truth you need to give her opportunity to practice her new knowledge. She will fail often but encourage her by gently bringing the truth again.
Unfortunately if you have made up your mind that she is unredeemable she needs to find a new friend.
Anonymous
02/16/20 at 11:39PM UTC
Love it ❤️
Joann HalpernWide variety of experience in school of life!
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02/16/20 at 3:25PM UTC
Have you ever told your friend in writing how you feel? If not, shoot her an email or give her a handwritten note expressing how you feel. For you, it’s therapeutic getting all of that out. For her it could be therapeutic, giving her something tangible to look at and ponder. Then if her behavior still doesn’t change, walk away from the relationship. She’s not your friend then.
Kirsten M TrammellCreative writer and freelance content creator
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02/19/20 at 2:48AM UTC
I love this, I find it so helpful when it comes to having a difficult conversation with someone, especially someone who tends to dominate a conversation.
Anonymous
02/15/20 at 5:08PM UTC
I don't think this person is your friend any more. You certainly aren't hers... just look at the way you write about her. (With friends like these... etc.)
Friendships have their time and place and it appears this one has run its course. It's OK to not have time to talk to her anymore. If she calls, tell her you're really busy and you have to go. Then hang up. If she wants to meet, you don't have time. Eventually she'll get the message.
Robin StoneWork with executive leadership team
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02/15/20 at 5:04PM UTC
If she is truly a good friend; she deserves an opportunity to change after hearing how you feel. If she won’t listen/or change then that’s your cue to move on.
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