In the last fifty years women have done the hard work of becoming more self-aware. We go to therapy, hire coaches, do yoga, lead our families, work full time jobs. I find it infuriating and surprising that so many men (of all generations) still have gendered expectations that women will: 1. do or lead all of the emotional labor in the relationship or family; 2. absorb/contain men's feelings rather than expect that their partner, brother, or father do his own emotional work to deal with his feelings; 3. defer to the men in her life for decision making and leadership. As someone who is married to a man, I encounter this frequently and find it frustrating. As a therapist who works with a number of professional, successful women, I find it mind-blowing. What is your experience?