Hi Victoria! Thanks for sharing your story and concerns with us. I also really struggle with reaching out to people online and worry I'm bothering others/saying the wrong thing; I worry people give less wiggle room in internet conversations, and given I'm someone who already beats myself up, being self-conscious in that setting can be even easier. But talking to other people about their concerns and worries in the digital age has helped me realize we're all really just trying to get along, no one is thinking like that, and people are so so willing to help. You are doing great, I promise. The prompts above can help with the initial contact, but remind yourself that you are great and people are happy to talk to you. That's done wonders for me.

Hi Victoria. First of all, I like to remind people that networking online is really not a lot different than in person. You still need to look at is as building a relationship. Most people are happy to help if you don't go right for the "ask." Here are a few ideas I've shared with women in sales when they are reaching out to people virtually. Maybe you can adapt them slightly to work in the job search. For someone in the same LinkedIn Group as you: I’m also in the LinkedIn ______ group, and I’ve really enjoyed reading your posts. The article you shared about expanding our networks really spoke to me. I’d love to learn more about your work. For someone you have been following: I have been following you on Linked and always find what you share insightful. I would love to connect and learn more about you and your business. Good luck and please reach out directly if you want to talk more.