Generally, I manage to cultivate contentment at work, but lately I've been struggling.
October 25,2021 at 1:56AM UTC
I'm a supervisor in a public library, lots of supervisory and leadership experience, 6 direct reports, regular kudos from upper management. I'm tapped pretty regularly to lead projects for the supervisors as a group, present at annual conference, train new supervisors, that sort of thing. We're nonprofit, so there are no bonuses, and the only raises are cost of living or through promotion. So being 'tapped' doesn't come with financial perks.
The only opportunities for promotion for me at this point require a Master's degree, which I do not have. I'm 55, with a 16 year old going to college in a couple years. Most of the time I'd rather enjoy these next few years with my family instead of going back to school. Also, the increase in pay, over the years I have left before retirement would do just a little more than pay for the Master's degree. So the timing (older teen I want to enjoy while I can) and also financially, it doesn't make a ton of sense.
I have talked to Leadership and asked about the Master's requirement for a manager, and they did make an adjustment, but that adjustment was to allow more/different Master's degrees for consideration. This is a positive step, for sure - they were only considering one specific degree prior, and this opens up to some fields of study that interest me and are much more portable.
I'm not quite sure why I want to advance. I would make more money, sure, but along with what I've mentioned above, financially, we are alright. We've socked away for retirement since we were quite young, we've paid our house off, we're debt free, we can afford the things we want and need. I'm concerned that I want it for the wrong reasons - for some sort of 'prestige' or something, or to impress people that I was able to land a management position.
In a strange way, it feels like I've 'arrived' - our finances are in a good place, I have a job I enjoy, I like the people I work with, my commute is literally 5 minutes (7 if the traffic lights both get me) but when I think about doing the same thing for 10 years, I get antsy. Do I need to find a hobby? Is it time to find a volunteer opportunity I can do with my family? Is it just perimenopause having some fun with me? How do I shake this feeling of not enough and cultivate contentment again? Thank you in advance for your thoughts.
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