About 3 years ago I left my engineering role and went into sales. Leaving left a noticeable gap in my former team and 6 months into my sales role, the VP of Eng met with me to inquire into my reason for leaving, and in the end convinced me to return... and return hopeful to get an exec role in 2-3 years. So far sounds good... except that I returned to my same manager. Even before I was officially back on the team, I fielded negative remarks from him about returning... but nonetheless, I accepted a new role in the group and was making a major difference. I felt satisfied with my job.
But, In the end I think my boss began to feel threatened. Where he is difficult and does not come to conclusions, I try to be people oriented and understand what is critical and find a way for progress to be made. So much so that even other managers at his level started going around him.
Now I feel like he is being hyper critical of everything I'm working on... combine this with him purposefully leaving me out of things I should be involved in, or assigning them to someone else. Plus he makes snide remarks in front of my coworkers - like I'm not a team player (because I had to leave a meeting 15 min early to go pick up my kids, despite trying to pre-align this with him a week in advance), etc.
Since returning to my former group as a manager level (but without direct reports), he is also lecturing me about the way managers should act. Sometimes though I feel like he is intimidated by me... While he relies on me (once he said, if you ever left me I'd hang myself) now it seems he doesn't want me to have too much visibility so I can't/won't move up or on... Plus I don't want to model my leadership style after this guy!
Am I being too sensitive with the critisisms and remarks? I want to keep a positive outlook and keep progressing but they have me frustrated and second guessing my abilities..