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Anonymous
09/19/18 at 5:40PM UTC
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Style & Beauty

My friend has been wearing the wrong bra size for years.

Okay, so my friend says her bra size is a 36B but 32C is more comfortable. If she doesn't wear shirts that are very tight on her neck, everyone (including customers) can see her nipples. We both work together in retail so I see this first hand. She needs to wear something that covers her chest when she bends down but I have no idea how to go about starting that conversation.

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Explorer374758
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09/24/18 at 5:07PM UTC
I would take her to get a fitting-- truly- most women wear the wrong size bra- I used to, until I was exchanging a bra due to size and the salesgirl tossed me in a dressing room to tell me how wrong I was about my size. Maybe tell her you want to get a proper fitting, but would like company and you can convince her to get one also?
Anonymous
09/25/18 at 4:05PM UTC
I like this but.. How do you nonchalantly take her for a fitting though??
Explorer374758
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09/27/18 at 2:09AM UTC
I would maybe go to lunch with her and tell her you want to go but don't want to go alone and ask her to go with you :)
Anonymous
09/24/18 at 8:38AM UTC
Tell her to check out Third Love. It's a relatively new bra company started by a woman who has an MBA who decided that bras made by other companies didn't fit correctly, that the straps slid down our shoulders, that there was back bulge, etc. The bras are incredibly comfortable and the cups come in 1/2 sizes!! When you go onto their website, you take a little quiz about the shape of your breasts, your size, etc and they actually recommend the size they think will fit best. There is a consultant available to help and the bras are 100% exchangeable/returnable. I love them and everyone I've told about them loves them too.
Emma Miller
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09/25/18 at 4:05PM UTC
Just looked up Third Love. Never heard of it but they look so comfortable! Using this recommendation for myself. Thanks :)
Anonymous
09/21/18 at 4:18PM UTC
What do you say without offending her? This is tricky. Do you know any of her other friends well? Maybe they'd have a nonchalant way of mentioning it. That way it doesn't impact your friendship/work relationship.
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09/20/18 at 7:41PM UTC
So it's not just the ill fitting bra that pushes her upward/outward. It is actually her wearing revealing or low cut clothing that exposes her. Since you are struggling to find words to say, let's assume you have kept the peace and said nothing. And yet, she must have an awareness of her appearance, because she has specifically told you that she is more comfortable in a tighter bra. So let's be clear: she is aware; she has a mirror. You can approach her directly and say, "Hey, sensitive subject, OK? ....so you've mentioned that you're comfortable with your bra choice, but consciously -or unconsciously- you're sending a non-professional vibe. Even though your words and manners have been super profesh, people cannot get past these "in-yah-face" boobies. So you basically have a choice, my friend.... You can choose to let your external appearance contradict your manners. Or, you can make an adjustment, so that you send a clear singular message of being professional." THEN - If she gets nasty or balks back at you, you can shrug and say "OK, well that's your choice. And now that it's been brought to your attention, there's no more acting as if you aren't aware."
Anonymous
09/25/18 at 4:04PM UTC
I think so too. She must know. But she may not realize how ridiculous it is unless someone actually says something.
Carrie_Galle
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09/24/18 at 1:37PM UTC
This is great approach. Letting her undergarments or her business hang out is career killer no matter what your profession.
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09/21/18 at 4:43PM UTC
I think this is a really good way to go about it. It's better than being like "Look, lady, we can see your nips" but sends the same message. It places the decision back in her hands, giving her the power to choose what she wants to do, but also gives you a chance to let her know that it is bothering you.
Anonymous
09/20/18 at 3:43PM UTC
Depending on how close you are... I'm usually brutally honest with my friends. I would just say, "hey, I can see your nipples."
Anonymous
09/20/18 at 3:43PM UTC
Maybe you can find the next Victoria's Secret sale and say, "Let's go shopping!"
Emma Miller
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09/19/18 at 6:47PM UTC
When is her birthday? If you're close enough with her... maybe find a creative way to gift her a bra?
Anonymous
09/19/18 at 6:46PM UTC
That's too bad. Do you think she wears the bra to purposely show off or is this a clothing awareness she is seriously lacking?

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