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Date trolling on LinkedIn
Good afternoon everyone. I just received a connection request via LinkedIn. Since I am a job seeker, I do tend to accept these requests more so then I do privately on FB, etc.
This new connection just sent me what I consider an unprofessional email which I answered making clear that I am not looking for anything other than a professional relationship. I hate having to question connection requests especially on LinkedIn since you don't know what connection might just provide the one needed to get a job. When did LinkedIn become a dating app? This really just really irritates me because I shouldn't have to deal with that. I guess going forward, I will definitely be more stringent. Anyway, this is the second time that this has happened to me. I'm curious if anyone else has had this issue & how did you handle it?
Debbie Cree
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04/20/20 at 2:54PM UTC
This has happened to me a few times. I am now cautious about who I connect with. I review each request carefully . I am still not as particular as with my FB account, but there are some that I definately see no reason to connect with. There are three handy options: unfollow, remove connection, report/block.
Barbara Ann Harvey
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04/19/20 at 2:10PM UTC
Same thing happened to me. I didn't respond. Then I had someone use my LI information (I'm sec/treas. of a professional organization) to try and scam the organization out of over 3000. I reported that to the police.
Stef FosterLoves HR,coaching,supporting & developing others
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04/19/20 at 3:13AM UTC
I had this happen a while back.... I did not respond back. I did report him to LI and blocked him.
Amanda Johnson HulseyFuture doctor
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04/19/20 at 1:21AM UTC
I have had a couple send a romatic message thru linkedin. I was confused and shocked that they were being so forward on a professional site. Best thing is like others have said is to just replied not appropriate and dont contact again.
Changemaker348033
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04/18/20 at 10:43PM UTC
Take your profile photo down. I have never had this happen to me (so far anyway), but I do not and have never had a photo up. And I don’t care what anyone says (ie LinkedIn), it does not have any negative effect regarding professional contacts. I am contacted all of the time, about BUSINESS. Lack of a picture has not seemed to make a difference at all. And frankly, it shouldn’t. A professional is a professional, and what said professional looks like has no bearing on their skills. But men are very visual, so if they see something they like, many of them will misbehave. So don’t give them an opportunity to act out of turn and make you uncomfortable. Take that photo down ladies.
Kathy Kavanagh Fencik
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04/18/20 at 6:08PM UTC
It has happened to me a number of times. Perverts
KATHELLEEN PARSONSBachelor's degree for healthcare admin.
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04/18/20 at 6:04PM UTC
I not only get that 'dating/ hooking' up kind of feeling, I also receive 'junk' job offers which is trying to 'hack' into my accounts. I am not really thrilled about the whole 'LinkedIn' concepts anyway. There are 'recruiters' out there that are money hungry and want to charge such an amount of money to review your profile, resume, and cover letters. I mean from range $100- $2,000 and no one is guaranteeing job placement, but makes sure to post their 'thank yous' on their page to cell their services. So, I am not sure, but things are not what they use to be. Stay safe, smart, and keep your mind open.
Beth CaldwellFounder of Leadership Academy for Women
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04/18/20 at 5:13PM UTC (Edited)
Hi Roanne this is a frustrating aspect of ALL social media networks. I have used LinkedIn for many years as a way to position myself as a leader and expert (please connect with me there) and YES this happens sometimes. Just as it happens to women at the grocery store, bank, tennis court, etc. SIGH.....
Here is what I recommend:
1. Accept LinkedIn requests from people ONLY if you would speak to them in person. Pretend you are at a networking event and saw them approaching you. Would you want to talk to them in person? If yes, then connect. If no, then delete.
2. Sometimes new requests (of any gender) will immediately try to sell you something, recruit you into their network marketing company or ask you on a date. When this happens, disconnect from them immediately. They don't get a notice and you don't need to over think this.
Try and stay focused on the positive aspects of social media. It allows you to connect with leaders and influencers that you might otherwise never be able to meet. Good luck!
Lynne CoganCareer Coach for Realizing Professional Dreams
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04/18/20 at 5:19PM UTC (Edited)
I presume this happens to all females.
Your options are: to disconnect, block or report this person. You also can delete the conversation.
Liz ShannonAccountant- Budget Analyst-Reconciliations
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04/18/20 at 4:45PM UTC
Personally, I don’t feel like it’s ranting to share experiences with a network. Even when the experiences are negative there are things that others can learn about those experiences.
Lynne CoganCareer Coach for Realizing Professional Dreams
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04/18/20 at 5:18PM UTC
Sharing is the purpose for posts and comments. And, of course, some situations are negative. But the post doesn't have to be.
Since the solutions I mentions are far more important than getting into a discussion of whether this was a rant or not, I will remove it and leave only the solutions.
Anonymous
04/18/20 at 3:25PM UTC
I remember it happened to me while ago. Like others I reported it as inappropriate. I do accept the connection requests from strangers though, only if they write some nice comment in the request that makes sense to be connected with this person. I used to accept blank requests and started wondering the real quality of my network.
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