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Only team member not to go to the conference
So my company is hosting a conference in NY, and invited clients to attend. I have client that has a four person team comprised of a director, and account manager, and two lower level team members (myself included.)
We were told that due to budget cuts, only the higher ups would be traveling to the conference to meet our clients. So they left a few days prior to spend time with the clients. However, having taken the day off the day before, I returned today to find that the other team member went to the conference - from someone not on the team.
With a team so small, I’m am blown away that NO ONE informed me that at least one of us were able to attend. How should I approach this? I feel insulted, and I want to speak up, but I’m not sure what to say, or what I want out of it. What should I do?
Nancy McSharry Jensen
CEO of The Swing Shift. Badass mother of two.
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05/09/19 at 4:09PM UTC
Just one more perspective: it may as simple as they needed someone to stay in the office and hold down the fort. I experienced this when I joined an established team; everyone went to an event except me! I thought my job was on the line, asked my direct manager, who told me "you're newest so you need to stay in the office and handle things here." I did, and over time ended up managing the entire team. At my review they cited how I handled this sensitive situation well. So go talk!
Lori SchmitzGirl Friday and much more in SFO Area
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05/09/19 at 12:45AM UTC
I am afraid I have to agree with most of the other posts... I would ask your direct manager about what happened... "Patricia (or whatever their name is); I am confused about what happened surrounding the event in NYC... do you know what changed? Is there a reason I wasn't invited to join as well?"... There may be a simple explanation or there may be an explanation you don't want... either way; you will know where you stand and can make some decisions from that point! Wishing you good luck!
Madam anon663Learner, skeptic, direct.
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05/03/19 at 4:50PM UTC
I agree with the above post. They are sending a clear message, imo, and I would start looking for another job.
1stBossLady
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05/03/19 at 1:32PM UTC
They've sent you a very clear message while avoiding confrontation. They are chicken scat and you need to start job hunting.
Anonymous
05/03/19 at 12:59PM UTC
I would just ask your manager about it without making it a huge deal because there might be circumstances to help clarify this. That way your manager realizes you were interested in going but it’ll open up an explanation or further clarification that might have been miscommunicated before.
Elizabeth Marie
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05/03/19 at 12:55PM UTC
would it have been possible for the team member who was invited to go to have received the invite while you were OOO? In my experience, last minute slots open up for unplanned invites to become available.
Lexi CarrContent strategist living in the desert ?
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05/02/19 at 11:09PM UTC
We don’t have HR, and I’m wondering if my direct manager even knew that the team member was going. (Very small office)
Anonymous
05/02/19 at 9:15PM UTC
If I were in your situation, I'd bring it up with your direct manager during a one-on-one meeting. I wouldn't frame it as accusatory, but maybe there was a specific reason why your colleague attended as opposed to you. Once you have more details on why they went I think you'll be able to take some next steps. If there's a good reason why the other person went then you don't even need to take any other actions, but if there was an unfair reason involved you might want to discuss it with your HR.
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