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Anonymous
03/05/19 at 7:22PM UTC
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My manager doesn't think my team should spend time "socializing" with the rest of our company...

My manager recently told me that he doesn't think our team should be spending as much time with our coworkers...I asked what he meant and he told me he believes that the hard work we put in is enough to prove that we belong. I found this so puzzling, as someone who believes that it's important that work be more than just a place to get work done and a place for human connection and growth I told him I did not agree, but I now find it hard to feel like I am under the guidance of a leader who has similar values to me. Ever since he said he didn't think we should spend so much time going to work events, like happy hours or bowling or anything that is out of office or away from computer, I feel like he is watching if I go to any of these events or spend time speaking with a coworker and not at my computer every second of the day. Anyone have any advice?? I don't really know what to do to change his mind, and I also don't want to leave, because I do love the company, but I'm struggling to be motivated to work hard for him ever since this happened.

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Paula R. Joseph
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03/05/19 at 8:58PM UTC
As a long-time manager, I completely disagree with him. We spend many hours at work and to have the friendship and support of others around us can make all the difference in the world when you're having a bad day. And bad days will happen. Having discussions with others outside your own team can also open you up to new ideas, different resources you perhaps didn't know were there and even finding new Subject Matter Experts on a topic your team is struggling with. I can think of two quotes I've seen that might help him understand why you think building relationships across teams might help. "Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much." --Helen Keller "None of us is as smart as all of us." --Ken Blanchard Good Luck!

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