I'm torn. I have a friend who I've known for about 8 months. Unfortunately, I tend to only see her when her boyfriend is out of town or has plans. I've irritated, as I don't think anyone's life should revolve around a guy. My birthday is coming up and I've mentioned my party to her numerous times. His birthday is close to mine. His family is coming into town on his actual birthday, so she's now celebrating his birthday on the same night as my party. We're fairly new friends, so there's not a lot I can say, but I'm bummed. Should I be? While I really wish she could make it, maybe it's more about the fact that her decisions tend to be all about him.
Why do women do this? I think women tend to forget that friendships are important and it bothers me when friends disappear only to resurface again when they're single.
I would rather have a few friends than deal with friends who don't value each other. Thoughts?