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Anonymous
11/15/19 at 12:56AM UTC
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Does anyone actually like networking?

I went to a networking event tonight. I know it’s great for my career to network, but I just didn’t know how to approach a single person. Finally I just snuck out and left. It left me wondering: does anyone actually enjoy networking??

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Robin Shaw Watson
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11/16/19 at 9:37PM UTC
As an introvert, I'm not great at small talk. But I have my "thought questions" that I ask people when I walk up to someone I don't know. Usually something like, "where is the most interesting place you've traveled?" or "What are three things you would take if you were going to be on a deserted island?" It gets people thinking AND talking about themselves. If I can be the listener first, it's easier for me to start talking about myself.
Marie-Claire Hart
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11/16/19 at 4:27AM UTC
I think it’s about finding the right type of group. I hate going to industry networking events, but I’m involved in a women’s professional group at a local foundation that I love. This group offers networking cocktail hour and then a relevant speaker or panel (e.g. voter education focusing on women’s issues, how to negotiate compensation as a woman). We’re all there for a common purpose, rather than than the corporate version of speed dating
Jamilla Segar
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11/16/19 at 3:21AM UTC
I was just reading today a lot about how networking is effective for jobseekers and it makes me cringe. As an introvert networking has never really worked for me. I've built some good connections but not from actively trying to network but being natural. Feeling like I have to force myself to network has never led to anything substantial. I haven't tried to do so in years.
Anonymous
11/15/19 at 5:44PM UTC
Networking is a triggering word for many. Especially, as an introvert - I have some neural pathways that make me think of events or awkward small talk. Small talk is the worst - I have to think that there are some very conversational and non-awkward cue-cards out there that could help make networking feel genuine and inspiring.
Elizabeth Shimek
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11/15/19 at 7:16PM UTC
Same -- I'm an introvert and contemplating networking events can be exhausting. I find that giving myself a concrete goal is helpful, instead of leaving things open-ended. For example, I'm going to speak with 4 new people and I'm going to ask these 5 questions over the course of the night.
Natasha Nurse
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11/15/19 at 3:51PM UTC
Yes, I love networking. Every person is a walking talking mystery box waiting to be uncovered. Happy to discuss techniques to learn the art of networking. Let me know :)
Nancie Shuman
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11/15/19 at 4:47AM UTC
I dislike networking events. For the same reason mentioned above: I am actually an Introvert. But the other interesting thing is this: studies show that networking events don't actually, well, work! Stunning, I know! While places such as FGB help, the random meeting with the local chapter of the Whatevers, probably will not net a very big return on investment.
Sandra Diaz
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11/15/19 at 3:19AM UTC
I agree that networking can take many forms, not just events. But for those most-recent blues check out my article "Dread Networking? Ask Yourself These 10 Questions" at Dread networking? Ask yourself these 10 questions https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/dread-networking-ask-yourself-10-questions-sandra-z-diaz
Crystal Rhineberger
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professional rofl nevermind lets just wing it
11/15/19 at 2:05AM UTC
Yes! I love people and finding a common professional interest!
Anonymous
11/15/19 at 1:21AM UTC
I would distinguish between networking events and networking! The former I find uncomfortable as an introvert. But I love actually getting to know people, particularly in intimate settings where its less pressured and overt.
Anonymous
11/15/19 at 1:01AM UTC
Yep, I'm a sucker for networking. I've found it's great to bring a friend who's equally interested in networking, but you don't hang w/one another. Have him/her be on one side of the room, you're in another part of the room. He/she brings a potential contact, you bring one, and the four of you get to know one another. Maybe the four you go back into the crowd, bring another like-minded candidate and BOOM - you now have EIGHT people talking and getting to know one another. Don't leave w/out business cards! Keep the alcohol intake to a minimum. First impressions are lasting.

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