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Anonymous
05/26/16 at 9:43PM UTC
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I'm really torn about raising my hand for a promotion because I think it means my personal time and "balance" are going to suffer.

I'm not really sure how much, and I think I might be able to handle it, but I worry about rocking the boat when things are finally so stable...and then there are other times I think about leaning in and everything I've worked for and setting an example for my daughter. Has anyone been in this situation and have any advice about how to think through this decision? Of course the fact that I ask for the promotion is no guarantee I'll get it, but I think I'm fairly well respected and have a decent shot.

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06/04/16 at 12:44PM UTC
Hi! I've actually been in your situation quite recently, so I can relate. One issue that comes up often in the media and research that affected me, and may affect you, is that women tend to weigh the pros and cons and only go for positions when they're 100% sure of themselves and their qualifications, whereas men are more likely to apply when they're at 60% of skills and abilities needed. In applying this to your situation, I would ask, are you clear on what the work-life balance implications would be? Do you have the full scope of what people in that (promotion) position do? Have you sat down with someone to talk to/interview them about this? We tend to make assumptions about those areas versus going off of facts. Second, if you are the candidate they want, there may be room for negotiation (Ack! Another difficult area for women, generally). Perhaps they can't give you more pay but they can still allow you the telework days you want, or a reduced schedule, or whatever would make this work for you. You won't know until you apply and make the case for being the best person for the job, though. Finally, I'd say that there are stages in life and personal time and balance can be more important than advancement at a specific point in time, so there's no shame in feeling that way, but you shouldn't hold yourself back from trying if this is something you feel you could do well and would allow you to grow in your career. Best of luck with your decision!

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