Hi all- I was recently promoted - I work in sales at a tech company- and my boss decided it would be beveficial to do a 360 review. The results were stunning- while there were some excellent pieces of constructive criticism- clearly from folks who had worked with me enough to know well my strengths and weaknesses- there were a group of responses that went something like this”needs to comport herself better, be less aggressive, stop telling people what to do, etc”- to be clear 90% of the review focused on how much of a team player I am, how my leadership pulls the team forward and/or encourages others, always willing to help anyone, etc
The comments concern me because they all seem to focus on how I, as a woman, speak - and not what I say, Although the review was anonymous- it was pretty easy to assess who was behind most of the comments - and in particular the nastiest and most personally directed comments came from a man I don’t generally work with, but who has gone to my boss before to report me as disrespectful when I asked him directly about one of his employees not following company procedures in an attempt to assign leads to his friend instead of the appropriate person on the team. Have you ever had an experience like this and how do you recommend I proceed? Thanks!