To change or not to change, your name after marriage?
June 24,2019 at 4:38PM UTC
It's officially wedding season! As I'm getting married later this year, I've been thinking about whether I'm going to change my last name. I know there are professional, personal, cultural, and feminist (*taking down the archaic patriarchy) reasons to change, or not. Right now, I'd like to keep mine. I am open to having our future kids share my partner's last name with mine as a middle name like [FirstName MyLastName Partner'sLastName], as well as going by [Mrs. Partner'sLastName] socially, and by The [Partner'sLastName]s when referred to as a family. My partner wants me to take his last name. I'm not a fan of hyphenations since it'd be fairly long, and apparently in the US, it's an even bigger hassle for men to change their names then it is for women. (I wonder why? ;). What are your thoughts about changing your name? How do kids factor in your decision?
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