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Those Pesky Holiday Blues
Hey!
No matter who you are, the holidays can hold a significant amount of stress and depression for many of us. Here are some great tips and tricks to get through the difficult holidays and make it easier on yourself. Also it’s important to keep in mind that not everyone will tell you if they are having a hard time or how badly they are struggling in general, especially during the holidays. Community is so important in this world and it gets so lost on so many of us.
Take a couple of minutes out of your day to check in on friends who may be a lonely, or have recently lost a loved one. Also the elderly need some love too! It costs nothing to drop by and check in on a that neighbor, and this can significantly boost your mood!
~Jessica
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/depression-tips-holidays#5
Nia-Alyese Rae Boyd
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12/29/19 at 11:29PM UTC (Edited)
Happiness as #Goals can be problematic because certain situations like a break up, losing a loved one, experiencing financial difficulties, or being stressed over a full plate that we keep piling new things on can really bring us down. One helpful thing to do could be sitting with those feelings for a while-own them and process them because it is absolutely okay to be sad. In fact, I worry about people who never experience sadness! If the sadness is too prolonged, it's time to seek help from a therapist, a doctor, or even a good friend who won't judge you. Self care is different for each of us, but I find that music always helps me process my feelings. So does bawling my eyes out! I also search for the one thing I can be grateful for in any situation. When my mom died, I was devastated. I still miss her so much, but I found comfort in the fact that I was able to really "be" there and with and for her as she declined. I was grateful for the conditions that allowed that to happen. At first, acknowledging that daily was the tiniest thing up against my loss, but it became something I could hold on to as I mourned. We must first and foremost own our pain, hold it, turn it over, find it's source at ANY time of the year in order to place it where it won't hinder our lives and the enjoyment of happiness that comes and goes.
Anonymous
12/16/19 at 1:55PM UTC
Thanks for posting this. I lost my last parent this year after a lengthy illness. I lost my brother to suicide 5 years ago on Christmas Eve. I had a major job change this year. And, I am struggling with decisions related to my future. So far the holidays this year have been an extremely depressing time for me personally. I've been shocked at how friends .... even close friends... don't even ask how I'm feeling or how they can help. Some days it all just feels like too much.
Maggie BBusiness and Data Analysis Consultant
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12/18/19 at 4:27PM UTC
That's a lot. 2019 has been a rough year, but it looks like this time of year is particularly tough for you. Please feel free to reach out if you need it.
Jessica LaVitte
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12/16/19 at 3:32PM UTC
It’s sounds like you have a lot going on indeed. Friends sometimes seem to fear the situation or try to stay away from it altogether, don’t they. I’ve never understood why, but one thing I do know is that it’s not about you. It’s usually because they don’t know how to approach the situation or maybe they really don’t know how you are feeling. It can feel like your life stopped and everyone else is moving on around you. Reach out to them If they aren’t reaching out to you. It may be just what you need.
Make sure you take care of yourself, practice self-care, buy yourself a gift, maybe start a new tradition honoring your loved ones, get some exercise and eat a healthy balanced diet. It may be hard, but try to get out and be social, and most importantly, give yourself time to grieve.
If you’re feeling like you cannot get out of this rut, it might be time to talk to a professional therapist who can help guide you through this hard time of year.
I am so sorry to hear of your personal tragedy’s. That is a lot for one person. Each year should get a-little bit easier , but it’s going to take time. You will always carry them with you. I wish you so much health, happiness and healing. ~Jessica
Anonymous
12/16/19 at 3:40PM UTC
Thank you Jessica.
JessicaViolett
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12/17/19 at 2:13AM UTC
You’re Welcome. Hang in there.
Vidya RajaChemical Engineer/Machine Learning Scientist
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12/14/19 at 4:06PM UTC
Totally agree. People need to show compassion to those who are less fortunate or going through rough times. You never know what someone else is going through until you take the time to talk to them.
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