Snarky co-workers

Question

How do you deal with snarky co-workers in a very small office that you know they just don't like you or respect you. And you know that you are more than competent at any task that is given to you, but they are just unwilling to accept change and constantly berate you to the point that you just don't care or want to just say 'f' it and leave...

Chelsey Thibodeaux · Answer

Unfortunately, there is the potential for drama in any office. You could leave, but what if you encounter the same issue elsewhere? I would make my decision to leave based on the job itself and not the snarky co-workers. Do you feel fulfilled doing the work? Is it meaningful? Does it help you grow? In fact, this situation may be the very challenge you need in life to grow. We will never be able to control how others treat us, but we can control our reaction and outlook. Try this: Re-frame the situation. As opposed to 'I am constantly being berated' ask yourself, 'Why does this bother me?' Ultimately, their comments toward you are a reflection of their current situation in life, and really have little to do with who you are. Know yourself, and have confidence in that. Then you will come to understand your own boundaries and what you will stand for.

Anonymous · Answer

Sadly, this sounds like a toxic environment that needs to drastically change. Is there any ability to express concerns to HR or other trusted employee who may be able to empathize?

Crystal Rhineberger · Answer

Ooooo the office name we shall not say goes here.
When in this position I always blow this person off after I have my goal and have done it above and beyond. I never try to entertain this person they are basically wallpaper to me. Well wallpaper w authority. A hide of armor is a good deal here, remember if that snarky human isn’t your friend well so be. But watch they can bite

Madam anon663 · Answer

If you are waiting for the next opportunity, you might be waiting a long time. Start actively looking for the next opportunity right now, the longer you stay your mental health will take a hit. I speak from experience.

Anonymous · Answer

I think this depends on what the relative roles are that you and your coworker have. For example, if that's your boss or someone who gives you work, that sounds like a situation that may not be helpful to you in your career path and you may want to seriously consider switching teams/companies. If it's a coworker that doesn't impact your career, it might be resolved by pulling them aside and having an open conversation, or conversely putting in headphones and ignoring them!

PenelopeSage · Answer

How much is your job being affected by your coworkers? Do  you have to work with them daily or are you just irritated that they're around and within the same company?

Anonymous · Answer

Thanks for the comments. It is helpful to hear what others have to say. Unfortunately there are only 6 people in the office. No HR. Only directors. I have to deal with it every day and I am just at the point that I feel it is toxic to me, my personal life and my morale. I feel my confidence is low and I am irritated to the point that I don't really care at all. I am not friends with any of the people that I work with. Personally I don't care about their lives or them much. The work is okay, but I know that I am better than what I am doing. However, I am not going to leave without having something else lined up. I guess I am just waiting for the next opportunity...

Anonymous · Answer

Is there an opportunity to talk to your manager or HR? Not only is this not great for you, but I'm sure it puts a damper on productivity and the end product of what y'all are working on.

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