How do you deal with group dinners/outings that are too expensive for your budget?

Question

I'm invited to two dinners that are small enough (5 or less people) that my presence would be noticed if I beg off. The problem is both were set/planned without input and the restaurants are outside of what I'm comfortable spending. I have a feeling that even if all I order is a soup or appetizer, the group would want to split the bill. How do you handle a situation like this?? Should I just suck it up?

Toni B. · Answer

If both groups are your friends just be honest. I want to attend but it's expensive and out of budget for what I'm comfortable spending. Tell them that you want to go but you want your own check.

I'm honest with my friends, I'll say I want to hang but it's outside of my budget or that they will have to catch me for the next pay period when I have 'entertainment' money.

Each pay period, I set aside 'entertainment' money. If I've already spent that money by the time they want to hang out I tell them catch me next time.

Anonymous · Answer

I was about to tell you a story of how that happened to my husband and me but instead I'll keep it short and just offer an opinion. There will be people who feel differently and that is fine.

Although I know it is a lot easier for the server, I really dislike splitting the bill when out to eat with a group unless everyone's individual bills would be fairly similar.  If the restaurant is beyond a person's budget, they could still go and just order soup or other lower priced option; however, this doesn't work when others order a full meal and alcohol and then want to split the bill equally. Does anyone else here feel it is really inconsiderate to suggest splitting the bill if there is a big discrepancy between orders?

I would just be honest with your friends and say that it is beyond your budget so you'll need to pass.

Carrie Topolski · Answer

Can you talk to the person who is setting this up in private?  I know exactly how you feel. I've had to be honest and tell them thank you but  I simply cannot afford this.

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