I'm in a 4 year relationship with someone that I care for very deeply. We met while I was in college, and he's always been supportive of my hard work, and made a point to take pride in it.
Upon graduation, I accepted an entry level job to a fast moving start up and love it. He was thrilled, despite being in a more blue-collar position himself.
Within a year I was promoted and (thankfully) given a raise. And it whet my appetite. I love my industry, I love learning about it, and when I was hired I was given the impression that if I did well and outperformed I would continue to move up. And with the new acquisition of our business, there have been a ton of role changes in the works and an official bi-annual promotion/raise period has been established.
I've been working hard and struggling with the new merger because I want to continue my trajectory. And part of that plan means getting a raise at our bi-annual period to match the salary of the workers from our newly acquired.
But when I discuss my stress and how it relates to my goals, he's doesn't get it. In fact, he's gone as far to say that I need to appreciate how lucky I am that I was given a raise and promotion so quickly, because not everyone gets that opportunity. I feel like he's missing the part when I worked hard to get that raise, and how I've been working hard now to raise myself up in that same timeline. Is my goal of wanting a raise 6 months after a first raise to match the salaries of an acquired company and to make up for the long hours I have been working the past 6 months unreasonable? And if not, how do I explain this to someone who thinks it is?
Sorry for the long post.