Im in a toxic relationship but i dont know which ones the toxic one
I know for sure our relationship is toxic but i dont know if its me or her, I always feel really drained from her and she’s extremely difficult, my grandma said shes selfish, a couple days ago i told her i left my headphones at her house, and she said that her dog had them so i asked if she could get them and she said no because he would bite her (their dog is poorly trained) then when i told her if he chews them up then she should give me a new pair and she just said “nah”
She has a job and i dont (we are 14) and she blows her paycheck really fast, so shes always asks me for money because shes “broke” she also got mad at me for wanting all three of us to meet up with her and her ex (they were still friends) and when she found out (idk how) she ignored me for a long time and wouldn’t tell me what was wrong so i asked her brother and he told me it was because she accused me of trying to make her jealous by hanging out with her ex (before all of this she asked me if i would ever hang out with him without her and i said no) but she still got mad at me , it was a really long argument mostly me repeating the same thing until she got it through her thick head, before she finally apologized, about a week ago while we were in gym class we walked the track outside she was being quiet so i didnt say anything and I decided talked to one of my other friends while she was doing that thing again, she walked ahead of us, then when we went back in i said “do you wanna play volleyball?” And she said no and walked away to walk around the upstairs part of the gym, so she took a picture sent it to another one of my friends and said i was ignoreing her and she thought the solution was to ignore me for the rest of the day, (i found out by basically forcing it out of him) so I decided I wouldn’t bother trying to talk to her because she never tells me whats wrong and always responds with “i dont want to talk about it” so i left it alone and acted like i didnt know , i offered her a school juice box in the hallway to make conversation (she has the same class After me so we had time to talk before i had to go to mine) and she completely ignored me as I expected, so i laughed it off and left.. later that day she texted me saying i “acted like a bitch” and “ignored her and acted like nothing happened” I eventually apologized and said “im sorry if it seemed like that but i wasent”
She never apologized
I really dont know what to do, shes hard to communicate with and I barely have any friends and we have known each other for 7 years so its hard to cut her off.
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