I need a new job, I need a new job, I need a new job, I NEED a new job, but my goodness is it difficult to network in my position.
I need a new job, but my job can't know I need a new job. I have my LinkedIn set to premium and "open to new opportunities", but that is as far as I can really go without news getting back to my boss - which would make my situation that much worse. I wrote a status on Facebook about my search for new opportunities, but blocked an extensive list of people that could leak the information to my employer. Then I couldn't sleep for a week out of fear I forgot to block someone so I deleted it.
The reason why I need a new job as well as the reason that I wish I had the privilege to publicly network on career platforms is because my boss is too dependent on me to do her work and too self centered and manipulating to process my current will to leave. If I leave, our already overworked department will crumble because she doesn't have a clue as to what I do. Not because I don't tell her, seek her advice, make improvements to, or review them with her - but because she doesn't care. She doesn't listen to me on a genuine level - she's an amount of of self-serving that I didn't know was possible, and it's honestly been the most disappointing and depressing three years of my life despite the fact that I am making the most money I ever have. I dealt with the stress at first - but I am breaking. I am at the point where I would settle for a lower position elsewhere if it meant a healthier work environment, yet I still need to earn a living wage in NYC.
To make a very long story still long, I was thrust into the tip top of the food chain when I worked my way up from a bank teller to an executive assistant for the VP of operations. I worked hard in my new position, receiving two promotions and perfect performance reviews along with it. I doubled my salary in 5 years since starting as a teller. I was jaded at first. I saw warning flags but spent my energy proving my worth.
So why am I absolutely miserable? Why have I been job searching for the last year? Because I work for an organization that consists of executive hypocrites who berate their retail workers, stating they must "grow with the job" and how "their job isn't the same as it was 20 years ago and they have to be business and tech oriented not just focused on service" - yet these same people earn in the hundreds of thousands of dollars (before bonuses, of course) and cannot understand the difference between a PDF and a PowerPoint file, with their last notable credential being a bachelor's degree from 1983. An incredible portion of my day is spent defending and explaining why they are incorrect in questioning the accuracy of my work because my superiors lack basic skills such as navigating an excel spreadsheet. It's like I'm in the Twilight Zone. How do I even approach conflict resolution when the issue is that my superiors are incompetent? I'm sure letting them know that will do great for me...
The Senior VP, one of maybe 4 executives on his level, which are all directly under our CEO, once called me into his office because he accidentally made a sentence bold in Word. I am all for helping others - but it is inexcusable for someone to make that salary and not brush up on the most basic computer skills.
My boss also has a habit of critiquing me about documents she created. She once gave me a document to copy into a PowerPoint, and as she presented (with our CEO there) she noticed it was an older draft. She ended up lecturing me for not thoroughly reading the document and noticing it was outdated, even though I had no involvement in creating it. I have had to explain how she was the one to do the things she was trying to coach me on countless times.
And days off? I'm harassed. I once received 8 Missed calls and two voicemails during an FMLA day where I was caring for my sick father. Most days I am called for things such as "where did you put such and such file?" - meanwhile it's a file shes accessed and created before I began working for her, and not to mention windows has this great feature called a search bar. She can't function without me because she spends her time in meetings and then spends hours talking about the drama that happened in the meetings until it's time for the next one. Then she stays at the office such long hours and cries how hard she works meanwhile I see first hand that if she would just do the work during the workday there would be no reason to stay. She needs me to prepare every ounce of data or she won't know the status of how we are functioning as a branch network.
*PS: sorry for any typos or grammar errors, I have to get going but I am grateful for the anonymous feature on this platform because I needed to get this off my chest after a night of job-hunting.
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I am having such a difficult time obtaining remote work.
I never thought it would be this difficult. I thought it may have been my resume so I had a few done professionally and still rejection email after rejection email. This is so discouraging. Wishing success to us all during these difficult times!
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Am I barking up the wrong ladder?
And, if I am not, how do I constructively talk to my boss?
I work a union position as web content lead for a state agency. The position is newer and still has some fleshing out to do when it comes to the full scope, but my position description is pretty clear that I handle the management of our public facing sites and serve as advisor and journey mapper as we modernize those we have.
My boss is from the private sector. This their first time managing and we are a team of four. There is a lot to unpack here but I will try to keep this lean.
One their former bosses (who is a friend of mine and sometimes tries to help me navigate the situation) described my boss as "Ready, Fire, Aim!" which is accurate. They have a history of rushing into decisions (often that the team needs to fix), glazing over during any detailed information anyone gives and rushing us along, and generally charging ahead and then being demonstrably upset when they are stalled by the processes necessary when serving the public. They have (by their own and their bosses' admission) poor delegation skills and tend to micromanage and take other peoples work without telling them when stressed, which is often. They routinely have issues with one or more teammates who are a bit more set in their ways. This is the tip of the iceberg.
They are not a bad person, and are good at some things. They are a terrific salesperson, excellent speaker, protective of their crew and flexible about personal matters. It's nice that they have a lot of vision and ambition, too. We need that! It's just that I and the team wish we had a bit more insight into where they were going before they go there.
Recently we started wrapping up a major website revision project which I am kind of leading (I'm a collaborative sort and this is a very collaborative effort). They announced to me in an off hand manner during a 1x1 that they were moving ahead with several other major projects in my focus are and I was like, oh, this is the first I have heard of that. They seemed very nonchalant about this fact and kept right on talking, like oh, yah, I'm doing that and that and that. I let them know about some preliminary hurtles they would need to address and they were like, ok, thanks.
I have to admit I am a bit insulted. I'm trying to keep it in perspective and think this is obviously in keeping with how they are on a regular basis. But it does affect my work. On the one hand, if they charge ahead and I am blindsided, I won't be able to contribute. On the other if they just take the work away I don't get the growth and experience and chances are very likely I will end up fixing the mistakes.
Would I be stepping out of my boundaries to say hey, this is part of the scope of my job and I would like to understand your vision and timeline and be a part of this? And, if it comes to it, to explain that these things are in my job description? We are a union shop and it's generally not considered cool to duplicate duties. I'm just lost as to how to set my boundaries with this person without starting a war, or if I even should.
Thanks for listening. :)
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I have to just say to all employers.
Employers that tout "disability inclusion" should not just limit to physical disability. All disabilities are not visible. As someone with multiple sclerosis, please ensure that your "disability inclusion" actually includes those with mental disability, emotional disability and intellectual disability. "Disabled" does not equate to "incapable" or "unable". We are just looking for the chance to join the work force and continue our lives...Give us a shot...we don't bite and we won't disappoint.