I am in such trouble.
I called my manager all sorts of degrading names on a secret whatsapp group with other employees. a whistle blower sent screenshots to him. I have a hearing tomorrow and will probably loose my job. I have no idea why I said it and what on earth is going on with me. It's been a rough year and my performance has been in a downward spiral since May. This manager has only been good and very supportive to me. He didn't deserve the slander at all. I have no idea what's going on with me. I have never in my life acted in such a despicable manner. I have no idea how to even try to remedy this sitution. I sent him an apology, but it feels false. What can I say and do to try and remedy the situation?
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mcasterlloyd
This is definitely a learning experience. If you need to vent about a manager, it's best to never put it in writing. We all make mistakes and you can't undo it, but learn from it. Every now and then, we all need an attitude adjustment. Try to think of what you should be thankful for at work instead of focusing on the bad vibes.
Bradford McCormick
OK. Just give him what you wrote here. This says it all. My only question ius whether that "whistleblower" is really a tattlletale. Whistleblowers report malfeasance, not gossip. You were foolish: There is no such thing as a "secret... group with other employees", at leadt outside a union.
Question everything, including what I write here. And advice is cheap. If it was me I would hand my boss exactly your posting here, and ask he if he could work with me to improve the situation for the good of all despite my having been foolish.
I do not hear that you did anything to materially harm your employer. That is important. We are dealing her with words not acts. And as far as apologis are concrned, the two most useless words in the English language are "I'm sorry". What is constructive is to sincerely say: "W will do better going dforward." Since you did not do anything which caused material harm to the company you do not owe reparations.
If I was your manager, after reading the above document, I think Iwould give it a try to improe things, in part becaue I would se this as a challenge for me toprove myself worthy of being a manager.