Not a good fit...
Hi! I went into my new job with a ton of excitement and hope. For context, same job function I've been doing for several years (project management). I quickly realized their work style is very different than mine (chaotic vs planned and detailed). I do it in the way that has worked best for me while maintaining the integrity of the company and my results fail. It's been hard for me to adapt to their work style. I've tried to mimic their way and my results are horrible. I try to do it the way that works best for me and the results are horrible. They are still transitioning moving files into a shared drive and it's not organized. It's been 6 months - I know it's always rough the first 6 months but I've been working for over 20 years for various companies only to leave when I relocated or for growth opportunities (average of 4-5 years at each job). It's causing me major stress and I'm not performing well. Met with HR for my 6 month review who kept saying "it's only been 6 months...you were hired during a corporate transition....etc" and to be patient.
There's little to no support - just "well we hired you to lead...." And "just look at past files ". My 1:1 s are chaotic and frequently canceled. I've spoken to my team member about this and they said "oh yeah...that happens all the time".
I really don't see this being my place.
I'm interviewing because I know it's best for me to leave even though my guilt is surfacing at leaving the team high and dry when they've been short staffed. I feel tremendous guilt and like a failure even though I know this isn't fair to me or the company because my best work is not shining through.
Any words of wisdom or tips?
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Anonymous
I think your title says it all. I have noticed that some people thrive when things are laid out and know what to expect at every turn. Others thrive in uncertainty and are given the latitude to figure things out on their own.
For me, I prefer to have a project 60-80% defined when assigned, and I get to put the rest together. I do not work well when micromanaged, and things are so structured that there is no room for creativity or adjustment if things originally envisioned don't work. Neither is right or wrong. It is just the different way that people work. As a new manager, I had to learn it fast and adjust to those who wanted more structure than I was used to. I also had to add structure to my style, so learning to adapt to the environment can help your long-term career.
Evelyn Cruz
There's no need to feel guilty. The same way a company has the right to evaluate you, you have to right to evaluate your relationship with them. Don't wait to get out as soon as you can. In the meantime adjust your work habits to mimic theirs. If they have no sense of urgency and you have a deadline be creative and prepare their content or provide them as much info. Providing a follow up date. Of they still don't deliver it is on them. You have carried them or brought them as far as you can. At the end of the day NO company owes you anything and will drop you when they feel the need to. There is no commitment. Take care of yourself and your family. Find another job. Good luck.