Self-efficacy and other people's perceptions of unemployment
Sarah Johnson, Ph.D.115
Public Historian in Greater NYC Area
July 17,2020 at 3:55PM UTC
Yesterday, I volunteered to pack food boxes for a local non-profit to distribute to people in need because of economic/COVID crisis. The woman who organizes the weekly distribution was a colleague when I worked in local government, and I wanted to support her and these efforts for our community. We had a brief conversation, as the event was winding down and she said, “It’s a good thing you did that digital project [in my former job] because you’re old.”
Deep breath moment—I’m 56, have a Ph.D. and over 35 years of professional experience, and I’m unemployed. Part of the challenge of being unemployed (and there are many), is managing other peoples’ perceptions of what that means and not letting them derail you, your efforts, or your self-efficacy. You’ve already taken enough of a hit if you’re unemployed now.
The key is to keep other peoples’ fear and anxiety--their negativity--EXTERNAL to you and your internal spirit. Later yesterday afternoon, I made the conscious and intentional decision to shake off her ageism. Ironically, in this morning’s email, a daily management tip addressed showing yourself compassion in this pandemic jobscape. I’m going to forward this tip to her with a note because if I had allowed myself to take her comment personally, it could have caused a swan dive into my own negativity, and I would not likely volunteer for her charity again.
We all need to be more compassionate, mindful, and present about the effects our words and actions have on other people, whether we are in management positions or not. We also need to call out ageism (and sexism, racism, homophobia, etc.) when we see it, in ourselves and others, or goodness knows we will lose volunteers or friends or future donors!
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