Combative business partner destroying my confidence
I work in a huge company. My primary project involves leading the marketing strategy for a complicated product. I work as part of a large Go To Market team and the leader of the team constantly lashes out at me in very public forums. She has berated me for suggesting ideas contrary to hers, reporting progress she is not happy with, and pushing back on her expectations for marketing which my team are not able to meet. It happened again today and for the third time in two months I had another person on the call reach out to me afterwards to see if I am OK. I am not. My own leadership is a mess and not supportive of me. I've expressed my concerns and even went so far asking to be taken off the project. In the end, I am told by my leadership that I need to "take ownership" of the problem. This woman has a history of going above my head to stir the pot and is vocal that she is not happy with the marketing on this project. My own boss has looked at my work and says this overblown and not a true reflection and I continually receive positive feedback from other business partners working on this project. However, I am terrified to confront her. I am afraid I am going to burst into tears or worse she will again go higher up the chain and complain about me. My husband is losing his job due to COVID and I can't afford to lose mine. I don't know what to do.