The Continuing War of Relatable Positivity vs. Authority
I have always been a “glass-half full” kind of employee. I approach Troubleshooting as a challenge that I can’t wat to figure out. I’ve been known as the cheerleader in a group setting because I do everything possible to lift everyone spirits up before approaching an issue in the most unbiased free-minded way to arrive at objective and simple solutions as quick as possible.
Most would categorize me as an asset to their team, a good leader. However, working in a Medical device company as an engineer (STEM career) with my type of personality has ALWAYS been challenging for me. I get targeted for bullying quite often: “You are too talkative to be in science,” “You are not like or look like many engineers,” “You don’t have the personality to be a PhD,” “You are such a feisty soul,” “I don’t think you are promotion material because you are doing such a great job at your current position. Thank you for being so positive and understanding,” and many countless others.
Let me tell you: I have a thick skin and every time I face these comments in some way or another, I ask that person what they mean and ask my colleagues too what they think it means. My male colleagues have repeatedly said something that I just can’t get over:
“You are too positive and so relatable that sometimes you need to command authority by being more serious, aggressive and by using complex words to express yourself, “
or some variation of this sentence.
So, I decided to ask you… IS THIS TRUE?
I’m a firm believer that Positivity DOES NOT KILL your Authority. Positivity and Authority are not mutually exclusive of own another; in fact, being a positive leader is an asset. Being a Positive leader brings the team moral up and establishes a connection among teammates that encourages them to work together and support each other.
Another person that has been targeted like this because of his personality is my dad. So… it could be discriminatory, or it could be something else entirely.
What are your thoughts as amazing, strong, and empowered women in the workforce? I’m dying to know. ?
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Not happy with this transfer offer
My boss pulled me into a conference room yesterday to say that she has a transfer opportunity available to another office in the region (not far from home, about the same driving distance). I've been with the company for five years and have received great reviews and raises and a nice bonus. I thought she was going to suggest another position that recently opened up that sounds really exciting, but instead, she said a role was vacated at this other office, and she thinks I'd be a "great fit."
Well, the role really isn't anything I'd be interested in at my level. I see it more as a "foot in the door" job for someone with half my experience who needs to start somewhere. If anything, I see it as a dead end job. I'd take all of the great experience I've gained and toss out out the window if I took this job. I'm an SME in my area, and it would be bizarre for me to give up the job for something like this.
I said I'd think about it, but within five minutes of hanging up the phone, I had a sick feeling. I did ask her about the other role I'd want, and she gave me a wishy-washy answer about the role being incorporated into another position (maybe).
No one has ever complained about my work (not that I know of). I've been very happy there overall, but just a little antsy to take on something more challenging after five years. FWIW, she has moved people into really nice roles, but in my case, the move would look embarrassing, as if I were being punished and banished to a weird job that derails one's career (and I've seen them do that to other people on purpose). So, I'm going to tell her next week thank you, but I'm not interested. What if she tries to push it or demands a good reason why I'm turning it down other than I'd rather wait for something else? Would you say aloud that it doesn't look like such a great career move for someone with my experience, and I know there are better opportunities? I'd rather quit and go elsewhere than take this job. I ran this by a friend and he said it sounds like the first job they'd cut if they have layoffs.
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Currently interviewing but i have a dental procedure coming up that will put me out for a week , meaning I will be out for 1 week, just 2-3 weeks right after starting the job. ...
I would like to prepare what I will say as im approaching last interview and may land the job. The issue is I would rather start right away because i need income urgently to pay bills
a- tell them its best for me to start after my procedure - 3 weeks from now ( which will but me in a predicament as i need immediate income) and they might be annoyed they have to wait 3 weeks
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b-tell them i can start 1 or 2 weeks before my procedure and but that in 3 weeks I may need an entire week off .
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Feeling stuck on your next move in tech?
You’re not alone.
The industry shifts fast, and keeping up can feel like a full-time job on top of your actual one.
But staying relevant doesn’t have to be overwhelming.
Here’s a simple, doable rhythm to follow (even with a full calendar):
✅ Quarterly: Scan open job listings—not just titles, but the skills and tools required. Use AI to spot patterns.
✅ Monthly: Talk to someone in a role you admire. Ask what they’re learning, noticing, and questioning.
✅ Ongoing: Skim global reports (like the WEF’s Future of Jobs) and follow a few sharp thinkers right here on LinkedIn.
✅ Repeat: Make this a habit, not a one-off. You’ll start to see the signals.
Then, check in on your fit using the IKIGAI model:
? What you love
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The best programs offer:
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Hi everyone,
I’m Mitali, a former Cognizant employee and a recent graduate from the University of Texas at Dallas. I have experience in Salesforce, business analytics, and cloud technologies.
I’m currently seeking new opportunities in business analysis, CRM, or related roles. I’d be so grateful for any leads, advice, or referrals to help me get my foot in the door. If anyone has recommendations or knows of companies hiring, please feel free to connect or message me. Thank you in advance for your support!
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Job Search Myth: "If I apply to more jobs, I’ll get hired faster."
Quantity doesn’t beat quality. Sending out 100 generic resumes won’t open as many doors as 10 targeted, tailored applications.
Focus on roles that match your skills, customize your resume, and write a thoughtful cover letter. It’s not a numbers game; it’s a strategy game.
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