Potential employer's approach to job offer makes me uncomfortable...
Last year I applied through a recruiter for a job I was confident I would get. The company was a slight competitor to a previous employer, and the manager had reached out to our mutual network and one of his employees for info on me (through which I came highly recommended). He really wanted me to start right away, but I needed to work out some details first.
The process was a bit awkward - during negotiations, every time it seemed like we might be making progress, the manager would eagerly reach out to me directly with a tone of, "great news!", even though nothing had been finalized. At the time I couldn't commit especially as they could not accommodate my requests, so the communications sort of ended abruptly.
Flash forward, I have recently been laid off and posted on LinkedIn to inform my network of my availability. My previous employer - this company's competitor - reached out publicly to say I am welcome back any time. (Side note, I love my old company but the pay and logistics do not work for me). The manager at the new company, who had been checking my LinkedIn profile first thing in the morning the initial go-round, did it again, then he reached out to ask if I'd be interested in an opportunity with them.
I truly like the company, which I admitted to the first time, but I am concerned about working for this person who seems over-eager, and may even have grandiose expectations of me that I can't guarantee to meet. (Even though I know I can do a good job and may potentially be fast-tracked to management, which had been previously discussed.) I also do not intend to compromise on my own requirements of employment. Also, I'm hoping to avoid something that has happened to me in the past where an employer enthusiastically hires me, then for whatever reason, they begin to treat me like they did me a favor in giving me a job (this has often led to me leaving and the employer surprised).
I guess I'm just nervous about responding as I'm hesitant to move forward, but also don't want to burn any bridges or hurt my reputation. If you've read this far, thanks for your patience and consideration in this long rant.
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Anonymous
I’d get clarity whether the recruiter is still in-play or not. If so have him tell the manager things have not been ironed out and there is not an accepted offer. I’d share the same with the manager who keeps reaching out. Tell them thank you for their enthusiasm and messages but they’re a bit premature as an acceptable package hasn’t been reached yet and conversations are still ongoing with the recruiter. You get my gist. You need to know who the conversations are to be with and then move them forward to your satisfaction or dump the efforts.
Tami L Cannizzaro
While I do agree with others that it seems as if you may be trying to talk yourself out of this, if there is a voice in your head that is telling you "this isn't right", then listen to that voice and pass on this job. You've got enough hesitation - right or wrong - that says to me there's something at this company that is not right for you (this is the voice in your head) but you may not be confident enough to say No Thank You.
My biggest mistake was not listening to my inner voice and accepting a job offer where I was the perfect candidate on paper. I asked to speak with more people to get a better feel for the organization; I even turned down the offer. They countered with a stupid high salary. I accepted and within 2 weeks knew I had made a mistake; should have listend to those nagging feelings. It just wasn't a good fit. My 2-cents.