Am I overwhelmed with mom guilt and overthinking things?
August 26,2020 at 8:52PM UTC
My husband has a son he shares with another woman and we share a daughter.
Lately, I've been noticing that he favors his son more than our daughter. His son goes to his mother's house Friday-Monday and when he's away, I feel like my husband is not mentally and physically with us. He doesn't take advantage of these days to spend time with our daughter. Because my stepson and daughter didn't spend as much time together before the pandemic, they're very possessive with their father.
My gut feeling is telling me that because his son doesn't spend as much time with us, he tries to steer his attention to his son more than to my daughter.
Last night, I heard my daughter crying after my husband walked out of the room. I asked her what was wrong and she said that her dad didn't kiss her goodnight... this isn't the first time he did this. I know that he was upset with the kids last night because they were misbehaving, but I know he said goodnight to his son before he walked out of the room because when I walked out after putting my daughter down I saw him on his bed caressing him to bed.
Am I overthinking on the fact that he favors his son more? My husband works during the day and I know he's already stressed from work to want to just relax when he gets home. But we're parents and as much as we want to, we'd be lucky to get ANY alone time to relax.
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