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Cassy Lombardi
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Mimi Bishop
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Biz+Life Coach for GenX Women (and Millennials)
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There is a fine line between critique and feedback. Feedback should be clear, specific and allow the person to continue to shine. So often critique is given under the guise of feedback, but it is intended to shut someone down. I find AOC refreshing too. While I don't always agree with her, I am inspired by her willingness to say what she has to say!
Kate BonDurant, PMP
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Creative Strategist | Passionate Culture Builder
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Yes! And sadly this isn't limited to men critiquing women. I've spent most of my career in a female dominated industry and it's no different. There was little to no support for those talented but scared. I've made an effort to always use my position, whatever it may be, to support those I work with
Revonna Marie
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All of the above and then some!
Melissa Nobile
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Handbell Choir Director
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Who is doing the critiquing? I’ve never been critiqued by men at the office... only other women. I’ve worked for a lot of women and have often found that women are their own worst enemy.
Maria Molinari
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NSLS Executive Board leader/ QA Specialist
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I LOOOOVE this! I also have the upmost love and respect for Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez!!! Thank you for sharing!
Cara Houser
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Be Audacious - carahouser.com
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Yes - voice is power, and we must use it regardless of whether or not it is popular with those benefiting from existing power structures.
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Hi Cara, I use my voice and it backfires as I appear to be a troublemaker. If I don’t speak up for myself who will? It’s also frustrating when you are asked to improve in a certain area and you don’t get the support you need. They beg to differ though.
Cara Houser
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Be Audacious - carahouser.com
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Hello, So true - the double bind women often face, where we (like all humans) are responsible for speaking up for ourselves, but are labeled pushy, nasty, or unpleasant when we do so. This is due to cultural bias where expectations of women (as nurturing, compliant) don't jibe with being a person with agency in the world. What to do? Most women play the game of conveying the needed info in the most palatable way (with calm, a bit of humor, and with motivations rooted in the common good). This isn't a bad strategy in general, though for women there's often less leeway in how we communicate (and have it positively received). I'm not sure which areas you are working to grow in, or that your employer has suggested you work on, but I do have some ideas that might spark some of your own. Sometimes I think it's best to simply do vs. ask about things. For example, if they want you to learn new skill and you can do it within the regular work day hours, go ahead and reallocate some of your time to it. If you find a class that you believe would be valuable to your work at the company, propose that they cover (or split) the cost with you. Make it clear and easy to get to a yes (and only ask when needed, otherwise as long as it's reasonable, fair, and doesn't harm anyone, just do it). Wishing you all the best.