The other day I got a rather shocking email.
In the email, the author shared "her" (I am assuming) views on my narcissistic tendencies, the degree to which I am self-absorbed, and the unwelcome arrogant nature of my posts.
I had to take a minute. ?
We are wired to pay attention to the negative while overlooking the positive.
It is an innate genius construct that helps ensure our survival....when we are being chased by a lion.
Unfortunately, a threat is a threat, and your brain just sees a lion and kicks into high gear. (Hyperfocus on criticism - the figurative lion.)
So, here is a little wisdom (not mine) I used in the moment, and perhaps it can help you if you should ever find yourself on the receiving end of a hateful message, or a rude comment or just general mean-girl activity.
"Take a breath and tease out any truth." - JB
"They don't know you." CG
"Often, our personal work and professional message can trigger something in someone else. If they don't want to reflect and dig into what that might be, the solution is to lash out." - LF
"Don't let that asshat dim your light." KB
"Take down your retaliation post off FB.?" - S & L
I have a quote in my office, "The more sure you are about your mission, the less what anybody thinks about it matters."
SO, after a wee moment, and a mental reset, me and my narcissistic, self-absorbed self are getting back to work. XO