Do you ever feel like you have presented a well thought out idea or answer and it gets completely brushed over only for everyone to come back around to the exact same idea or answer after 30+ minutes?

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October 19,2021 at 5:37PM UTC

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Do you ever feel like you have presented a well thought out idea or answer and it gets completely brushed over only for everyone to come back around to the exact same idea or answer after 30+ minutes? How do you get your point across in the beginning to avoid wasting all that time? I feel crazy

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AnonymousOctober 19,2021 at 5:57PM UTC
Sure & I merely reiterate, "as I mentioned earlier......"
AnonymousOctober 19,2021 at 7:24PM UTC
Change your name, dress like a man, grow or paste on a moustache. I've always wondered what would happen in meetings if I did that.
yvette finley PHROctober 19,2021 at 7:33PM UTC
this made me laugh.. but I get it. I feel that sometimes I'm not taken seriously
AnonymousOctober 19,2021 at 8:30PM UTC
I’m sure you presented the case in a neutral, concise way citing evidence/metrics to support where applicable.
This happens to women daily. It’s happened to me twice today alone. Haha! The best thing you can do is document the idea & identity an ally ahead of the meeting. Tell the person that you plan to present the idea and ask THEM to bring the convo back to “well isn’t this what (insert name) said a moment ago. I agree and think x.” Buddy system. I’ve seen my male colleagues do this for each other. Find an ally.
AnonymousOctober 19,2021 at 9:52PM UTC
Some people are quicker on the uptake than others and it's about finding patience for the group to work through your solution together. But if your ideas are being repackaged and sold later in the meeting by someone else, then you need to reclaim them by saying something like, I agree that's a good idea because it is essentially what I presented at the beginning of the meeting. Being a little jokey about it will prevent you from being labelled as a you-know-what.
AnonymousOctober 22,2021 at 6:35AM UTC
Preach!!!!
AnonymousOctober 22,2021 at 6:43AM UTC
Question:
Is this happening during a brainstorming session? If so, that’s normal. People circle back to ideas after all of the group has a chance to talk.
Now, if it’s you presenting an idea and it’s dismissed out of pocket, but another person presents the same thing and is “brilliant” you might want to check the dynamics.