As I've reviewed many posts today, I'm seeing a lot of women are worried about leaving a job because of their emotional ties to others or trying to figure out how to answer if they are invited back as a temp employee or contractor. Even if they work in a toxic environment. Let me just say, do not, and I repeat do not, get your emotions involved. If you are going to resign, do it through the right chain of commands, do not share it with anyone prior. If your boss is no longer there, you go to their boss or HR. Women, buck up and dispel your emotions and the need to "take care" of others. Take care of you! Ask for more money, ask for more time off. It's okay and the world will continue to turn.

10 Comments

1. AmandaJune 17,2024 at 10:42PM UTC

   Yes! It can be so demoralizing to play small due to what we perceive we “should” be doing.

2. AnonymousJune 17,2024 at 11:34PM UTC

   I couldn't agree more. The business will always put itself first. Make sure YOU are taking care of number one.

3. AnonymousJune 18,2024 at 4:01AM UTC

   I felt the same way and stayed at a position I truly hated through two incompetent bosses and other problems at work in order to "protect" my team. Guess what - I lost my sleep, I started suffering from severe migraines, my blood pressure spiked, etc. Guess what? It wasn't worth it. Life goes on, my team members found something after I left or were fine. Stay true to yourself!

4. AnonymousJune 18,2024 at 12:48PM UTC

   I love this post! I have NEVER let my emotions affect decisions to leave a job for another, why? I always remember that the company looks at me as a "resource" and if the situation were reversed, they would have no problems RIF'ing my position, laying me off and any other type of "restructuring"...so, if I am a "resource", so is the company... and there are many other "resources" or there on both sides. This is one of the reasons why I NEVER call a company "family", because there is very little that is "familial" about how companies operate.

5. NeAnnaJune 18,2024 at 1:30PM UTC

   Great advice

6. AnonymousJune 18,2024 at 1:57PM UTC

   well said!

7. AnonymousJune 19,2024 at 12:31PM UTC

   Thank you for this post. We get so emotionally attached to the same jobs that would replace and forget about us without a second thought.

8. AnonymousJune 19,2024 at 2:35PM UTC

   Yes! ? I’ve only now learned this in my 40s. I wish I was less emotionally attached to work earlier on I would have saved myself a lot of grief.

9. AnonymousJune 20,2024 at 9:01PM UTC

   I'm in my late 50's, have worked since I was 21, went back to school while working full-time, lost parents, and one of my siblings. I've learned through my seasoned years, work is work, life is forever. Someone said it here to a response to my post and I paraphrase, we are all replaceable. So true. I've hired replacements so I know how replaceable we all are. But you know what? Love what you do, and do what you love. Make friends at work, but protect yourself and only let some in that are trustworthy. I've learned the hard way our co-workers are not our confidants. But your friends and family are. I was once accused of being secretive. I replied I'm not secretive, I'm private. My personal life is off limits here. I share what I know I wouldn't mind out there. I'm not emotionally attached as I learned the hard way not to be. I am emotionally attached to a paycheck, and plans to retire one day in the future. Hang in there ladies, don't let anyone be an emotional work vampire.

10. yvette finley PHRJune 20,2024 at 1:47PM UTC

    Please take care of yourself. Managing emotions in the workplace as a woman is an undervalued superpower!